Another Place In Him

Black, Female & Christian in America - Part 1

2012-02-01T21:09:00.000-06:00

Today marks the month-long celebration of Blacks' contribution to this country. We begin the celebration by mourning the death of Don Cornelius who committed suicide at the age of 75 today. I have no words. The circumstances around his death are still unclear. All we know is that he had some health issues. Again, I have no words.

I am Black. I am Female. I am Christian.

I went to private schools most of my life; all Christian and predominately Black. Same is true for the churches I attended.

I grew up in Black neighborhoods. As a matter of fact, the house Elgin and I stayed in was minutes away from where Reginald Denny was beaten after the Rodney King verdict. I could have walked to the corner and watch the whole thing unfold. I wasn't brave like Mother Newton's son, Rev. Bennie Newton who stepped in between life and death and kept Mr. Denny alive.

Elgin and I watched the city burn as the riots tore apart the City of Angels. We sought shelter at a friends place far from the smoke and gunshots.

As a kid, I remember government cheese and making the best grilled cheese sandwiches. I remember white boxed lunches from the Los Angeles Park and Recreation Department.

Red Tie Classmates
From SMA Facebook Group

I went to high school in Inglewood, the Blood's territory (signified by the color red), but lived near 89th and Compton Boulevard, Crips territory (signified by color blue). I went to an all girls Catholic high school and each class was represented by a specific color. My class was the graduating RED TIE class of 1987. I know God's hand was on me when I would catch the bus from my Crips neighborhood, dressed in red from head to toe. I had my red tie, my red senior sweater, my red and white saddle shoes complete with huge red backpack. Gang members must have thought I was crazy and left me alone.

After church one Sunday night, Elgin and I made the stupid decision to get Taco Bell before going home. Because of its location, this Taco Bell didn't bother to have a dine-in section; it was walk-up or drive thru. We walked up. A car full of gang members drove through the parking lot. One of the guys in the back held an assault weapon. They were looking for somebody. I'm just glad that somebody wasn't there.

I remember listening to grown folk talk about political injustices and the excitement when Jesse Jackson announced he would run for president. The stories Nana Brown told me sounded like strange fiction. What do you mean you had to walk on the other side of the street?Stranger still is the story of Elgin's grandfather. A slave, turned rich man whose family was killed in a suspicious fire. Elgin is here because he is the son of Mr. Alexander's second family.

I remember watching Roots as a little thing. I've blocked out much of the movie because in all honesty I think it was too much too soon. As I grew older, I remember the anger that would rise within me after watching movies that had anything to do with slavery, lynchings, and circus courts pronouncing unheard of punishments to Black men and women. I'm OK now. ;)

I was fortunate though.

Because I went to Black schools and attended Black churches; I know Black history. I was even taught the Negro National Anthem and yes, there is such a thing. Lift Every Voice and Sing by James Walden Johnson. I know our poets, our inventors, our politicians, our history makers.

Shortly after President Obama won the presidential election I called my father-in-law and we chatted. I won't repeat everything from that conversation but he was in shock that a Black man had actually won the presidency. He didn't think he would ever see the day.

This is what it is for me to be Black, Female and Christian in America.

But I don't wanna!

2012-01-31T19:37:00.000-06:00

I have a confession to make.

Yesterday....I procastinated.

I had a homework assignment that involved Microsoft Project.

I told myself that it was going to be grueling and convoluted.

I put it off until the very last minute which brought on a great deal of unnecessary stress.

And of course, I ran into computer glitches and I thought I would be late turning in my assignment.

Grace showed up, my computer cooperated and the homework assignment took all of 20 minutes to complete and was turned in on time.

I know...all the experts say you tackle your most challenging tasks first then proceed down your list.

So tomorrow, I'm tackling my writing project first thing...well after I take Kobe out for his walk because that's proving to be my most challenging tasks nowadays. We were making such good progress. But I digress; Elgin may be reading.

I've been working on a major project and have been imagining light and a tunnel. Like I said in a previous post, projects and troubles don't last always!

Here's to facing challenges and tackling the hard stuff first.

No more procrastination.

Blessings everyone!

Can't we all just get along?

2012-01-30T21:28:00.000-06:00

An idea was introduced in my strategic marketing class that was reiterated again in a book I'm reading. The concept is this...competitors working together...collaborating on projects together in order to satisfy consumer need.

You would think the last thing competitors would want to do is huddle up and work with someone who is interested in your customer. Why would Coke ever work with Pepsi? Why would HP share what it knows with Dell?

One answer...survival (also called collaboration for sustainability).

Businesses understand this.

This mindset says, I don't see you so much as a threat but as someone who can help me better reach my audience and/or improve industry processes.

I wondered if this thinking has trickled down to the rest of us?

If I were to use Facebook status updates as a gauge I would have to say no.

It seems that there's a lot of paranoia and a lot of intimidation out there. We prefer to work solo because:

We're afraid someone may see our weaknesses and vulnerabilities
They may steal from us
We've adopted the mentality...I got mine...you get yours

Granted there are some unscrupulous cats out there but this is not true of everyone. There are good people in Christiandom and in the marketplace. People you can collaborate with on projects to help bring your vision to pass and you theirs. No one has all the answers. Yes there will be people who know more than you do but that's no reason to isolate yourself.

There's no need to be intimated by another ministry.
There's no need to be intimidated by another preacher.
There's no need to be intimidated by someone who works in the same business/industry as you. I heard the most wonderful story of a jewelry designer who took another jewelry designer under her wing and shared what she knew.

Businesses are embracing this concept; and some have operated by this principle for a number of years.

Can we as the Body of Christ grasp this concept?

Can local assemblies come together and create change in shared neighborhoods?

Can Christian businesses collaborate together and meet marketplace demands?

Can fear, intimidation, self-deprecation and "crab mentality" be erased from among us?

Just a thought.

Lessons from Kobe and Mr. NFL

2012-01-27T09:02:00.000-06:00

When we brought Kobe the Labrador home almost two months ago, he was this cute little thing. No more than 15 pounds. He fit in our laps, he was easy to pick up and snuggle with. That was two months ago.

Kobe is now 30 plus pounds, no longer fits under the bed and it requires two laps to hold him.

But he has no idea of how big he is.

He still tries to go behind our legs while we're seated. Something he could easily do when he was smaller; not so anymore.

When I'm working at my desk, he used to fit underneath my desk and nap by my feet. Now it's a bit more difficult.

He thinks he's still this small thing. Not true.

Little dogs terrify him. With one swipe of his big paw he could easily dominate but for some reason he still sees himself as the inferior one.

Yesterday our son didn't play his best game against our school's fiercest rival. After the game he told us that before the game he told himself he would only be able to make layups. Well you can imagine how that went. He rarely got in the lane to make a layup. He wouldn't take open shots all the while me and Elgin are yelling from the bleachers...SHOOT!

Kobe and Mr. NFL/NBA teach believers valuable lessons.

Know who you are
Kobe is not a small dog; he doesn't know that and behaves in a way completely out of character for a dog his size. True, he's a puppy and he's learning. We're pretty certain that truth will catch up with him and he'll be comfortable in his big feet.

Child of the Most High! Are you acting out of character? Are you seeing yourself as a grasshopper when God says you dominate? Today I challenge you to see yourself as the Father does and behave accordingly. No more running from small, yappy dogs.

Watch what you tell yourself
The bible says that what a man thinks, well so is he. What are you telling yourself? Are your thoughts limiting your success? Our son had possibly his worst game all because of what he told himself during the pregame. We're teaching him to control the story he tells himself in any situation. Instead of "I'm only going to be able to make layups" how about "I make every shot." Eventually what you do will line up with what you say.

Unstoppable is the person who knows who they are and thoughts line up with the Word of God.

Be blessed everyone.

What do projects and trials have in common?

2012-01-26T21:15:00.000-06:00

My text book says not to confuse projects with everyday work. Projects are not routine, repetitive work; they are done only once. Projects are also not programs. Programs are a group of related projects designed to accomplish a common goal over an extended period of time (Larson & Gray, 2011).

As someone who is knee deep in several projects, I'm so glad I know that projects like trials don't last always. They have ending dates. Sing with me...I'm so glad, projects don't last always. I'm so glad...

Back at it tomorrow.

Prayer on another level

2012-01-25T23:04:00.000-06:00

Normally at the end of each bible study I host, I close in prayer.

This week, things went a little differently.

I knew the Lord wanted the ladies to pray for each other.

We created His Vision Boards and the goal was to simply agree with each other in prayer. To be in support of God's word in the life of a fellow believer.

Now I knew this activity would absolutely terrify a few so I did my best to put them at ease.

Our newbie to the bible study paired up with a veteran and she was scared; dare I say intimidated.

She said she had no idea what to say but eventually prayed a prayer from her heart that I believe reached heaven.

No vain repetitions needed.

Eloquent speech not required.

Stumble along if you must, but prayers uttered by righteous people get the job done.

Even if your knees are knocking.

Our newbie grew yesterday and hopefully she'll grow more confident in offering audible prayers for anyone who asks.

Watching people grow in their faith never gets old.

Excuse me, do I know you?

2012-01-24T10:16:00.001-06:00

Anyone can be used by God to fulfill his purpose.

He makes vessels of honor and dishonor.

So the being used part is not the part to get excited about.

What you want to get excited about is being known by God.

Couple of scriptures for your consideration:

Some folk who had done some pretty awesome things in the name of the Lord had their face-to-face moment with Him. They said, Lord we cast out devils in your name and oh the miracles we performed! Hallelujah! Jesus' response was, do I know you? Paraphrased from Matthew 7:22-24

In another setting, Jesus empowered a few disciples, sent them out on a mission and they came back with glowing reports. Lord, the demons were subject to us! We cast them out just like you did! Jesus told them to save the high-fives. He said don't get all caught up because the devils were subject to you...be glad that your name is written in Heaven. Paraphrased from Luke 10:20.

There's no credit given to being used outside of relationship with Him.

You have to be known for the stuff you do to count.

Jesus said this the greatest commandment is to love God with all your heart, soul and mind. That's the greatest thing you can do. To love Him is to be known and accepted by Him. You've missed a critical step when you do outside of relationship with Him.

So you can do all those things, create a name for yourself and make big money doing it.

My question is, are you known?

Strive then to be known, being used will come automatically.

Reclaiming what's mine

2012-01-23T09:08:00.005-06:00

I love Kobe the Labrador. He's sweet, he's obedient (which is a big contrast from Mac the Beagle) and he's loyal.

One thing Kobe the Labrador is not is cooperative on my morning walks.

And I understand it's because he's a puppy and needs to be trained.

Most days I would cut my walks short and head home frustrated.

Not this morning.

I reclaimed my morning walk.

I understand a few things about dogs that I didn't before.

They want to please and look to you to be the pack leader.

Proper pack order dictates that I tell the pack what we are and are not doing.

I needed to train Kobe how to walk with me.

No he can't pull.

No he can't lag behind.

No this isn't a poop sniffing expedition.

No he can't go running scared every time a car passes or dog barks (he's very skittish).

This is my morning walk and he will learn to share it with me.

So this morning we walked at my pace, to my set destination and back.

I didn't do a lot of talking. Usually there's a lot of "Kobe, no!" on our walks but this time, I let the tug of the leash do my talking.

I reclaimed my morning walk by taking control and that meant teaching Kobe how to walk with me. It meant correcting behavior in real time and not stressing when he stressed out.

I reclaimed my morning walk. What can you reclaim today?

Happy Monday everyone.

My Love Hate Relationship with Facebook

2012-01-20T09:13:00.001-06:00

I'm a fan of technology. Always have been. Elgin and I were early AOL adopters. We had email addresses but no one to email because most people we knew weren't connected yet.

I'll admit I was late getting to Facebook. I had a Myspace account, was on a few Ning groups, I was blogging and really didn't see a valid reason for joining. Especially when it was promoted as a way to connect college students. As Facebook evolved, I finally became a user.

It's been a mixed blessing.

What I love about Facebook

Connecting with family and friends
The ability to share a message with wide circle of people
Facebook advertising totally rocks
Ministry does take place on Facebook. A few days ago I prayed for clarity on a business matter and this woman gave me the answer I was looking for. She had no idea she had just been used by Holy Spirit!
People do share some good stuff on Facebook; so it can also be a place to learn.
You don't have to all statuses show up on your wall

What I hate about Facebook

It's noisy! OMG, the more friends you have the more chatter you encounter. I'm a member of a few Facebook groups and some people post five, six, seven posts...one right after another. There's something to be said for talking too much. Your voice loses something if you're always talking. People will tune you out. I know I have. The ear becomes desensitized because you've just become another source of noise. Write a blog and get it all out in one thorough, well-defined post. (Dismounting from my soap box now.)
Privacy issues.
Dishonest and unscrupulous people. One person went through my friends list, added them to theirs and tried to run game on them after they had been outed as a fraud. (Hmmm, with the new timeline feature, I wonder if my friends list is still hidden...I need to check.)
Bleeding on Facebook. I know some of them are cries for help but other folk vent stuff no one should know about.

Being on social media networks requires your discernment be up and running and then listen and act on what Holy Spirit shows you.

There you have it; my love/hate relationship with Facebook.

Have a great weekend everyone!

So they screwed up again?

2012-01-19T15:34:00.000-06:00

Mistakes.

Screw-ups.

Epic failures.

These are life's learning opportunities.

We all make mistakes.

We all have moments where we experience epic failures.

Babies learning to walk fail repeatedly until they finally grasp the concept of balance.

We don't beat the child mercilessly because they fell down during the course of learning to walk.

Not healthy people anyway.

If you happen to be in someone's life while they are experiencing learning opportunities, don't let that cloud your judgment about that person's call or purpose. Don't let that keep you from seeing them as God sees them. I understand some screw-ups cause people to say and do things that would have you write them off eternally but before you do consider this; God's great grace covered you during your learning opportunities.

Just because they're talking crazy today doesn't mean they won't be a dynamic mouthpiece for God tomorrow.

Just because they're in jail today doesn't mean they can't be used of God where they are.

Just because she got pregnant doesn't mean she won't be a devil-chasing, soul-winning evangelist with a word in her mouth.

It's an easy trap to get caught into; seeing things from just one angle.

The people who grew up with Jesus, the folk from His neighborhood couldn't see past his job as a carpenter and they missed it. They missed the greatest man to walk the earth because all they saw was Jesus the carpenter. They didn't see Jesus the healer, Jesus the Master Teacher. The bible says that Jesus could only do a few miracles in his hometown because of the people's unbelief.

How sad.

Not being willing to let go of someone's yesterday, clinging to the old and not embracing the new caused them to miss something wonderful.

How about you? Just because you see them at their worst, does this keep you from seeing their possibility?

At the end of the day, they will be the dynamic person God called them to be with or without your support or encouragement.

So, how do they look to you now?

Can you muster some more grace as God continues to make them...process them?

I knew you could.

Not always easy when you're right in the thick of it, but God strengthens us to do what we don't even think is possible.

Aw, so what?

2012-01-18T13:22:00.001-06:00

Every once in awhile you have to ask yourself SO WHAT?

So what:

Lots of people already do what you do;
Have more money than you do;
Know more than you do; or
Have more experience than you do.

So what:

You don't have all the answers;
Your equipment is old or borrowed; and
You're inwardly afraid.

So what:

People talk about you;
Laugh at you; and
Prophesy your demise.

So what? You have been entrusted by GOD HIMSELF with purpose, anointing and ability to do what He's called you to do. So what it doesn't look like someone else. In marketing it's called USP...unique selling point or unique selling proposition. Do you know the lengths companies go through to differentiate their products in the marketplace?

Here you have this gift God has given you...God's own USP at work in you and your worried about the product next to you on the shelf?

You know what you have to tell yourself right?

Obsessed with numbers

2012-01-17T12:30:00.000-06:00

King David got into serious trouble for counting the people in 2 Samuel 24.

Gideon who had an army of thousands watched God dwindle it down to hundreds.

It seems we like to count, we like numbers...big numbers (except when it's the scale, your blood pressure or cholesterol number...smaller numbers desired).

In some circles, success is counted by how many things you possess...whether it be congregants, children, awards, degrees, cars and so on.

Sometimes big numbers are good.

The bible says there is safety in a multitude of counselors.

That's definitely a good thing.

But you don't always need large quantities or big numbers to flow in what God has called you to do.

I'm still convinced you don't always need a lot of people, just the right people.

Watch God do the amazing with the few loaves and fish in your life.

Blessings!

Remembering Dr. King

2012-01-16T08:24:00.000-06:00

My husband makes a point to use one of his PTO days every year to honor this man. Today is the day set aside to remember his life, his message and his sacrifice. He was anointed to preach the gospel and help bring liberty to the oppressed.

We celebrate the life and legacy of Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

Responding to wrong

2012-01-16T08:06:00.001-06:00

Sometimes, the people who say they love you hurt you.

Sometimes they do things that go beyond human comprehension and leave you to scratch your head ask why.

Sometimes the pain is physical. Other times it's emotional.

If you should build up the courage and ask why, sometimes you get a straight answer.

Other times you're made to feel like you're crazy because in their mind nothing ever happened; they did nothing wrong.

Or the infraction was so long ago they ask why are you still dwelling on that and who really cares.

If you want to talk family hurt you have to go to the story of Joseph. Hated enough by his brothers for being his father's favorite that they plotted his murder. Instead they turned the situation into a money making venture and sold him into slavery. How dastardly! His life took several downward spirals before things forever turned around in his favor. When Joseph was finally reunited with his brothers he said this:

Now do not be grieved or angry with yourselves, because you sold me here, for God sent me before you to preserve life. Genesis 45:5 (NASB)

This is one of the most powerful acts of forgiveness given to us in scripture. Joseph was done horribly wrong by family and that action led to forced servitude and prison. But in the end, Joseph was able to see the big picture; that he was sent ahead in order to save lives.

I am sure there were days in that prison he greatly resented his brothers. We see him getting even when his family came to buy food.

But in the end, he adopted forgiveness; and forgiveness is empowering.

From the cross, Jesus cried out Father forgive them, they don't know what they're doing. Stephen even asked forgiveness of those who stoned him.

I pray you choose to empower yourself through forgiving mom, dad, sibling, aunts, uncles, cousins, grandma's and grandpa's, ex-husbands, ex-wives, old boyfriends or girlfriends and even your spouse.

Today I pray that in 2012 you adopt forgiveness.

We're ready for some football!

2012-01-14T16:23:00.000-06:00

At the beginning of the season, my husband suggested I photograph this Texan win. He said it might be the last time we saw this. Well, here we are in the playoffs! And that's with our starting quarterback, Matt Schaub, injured and an injured Andre Johnson. Our defensive coordinator was even out a game or two for surgery. The Texans pulled together and rallied around T.J. Yates and we continued to win.

The Texans play against the Ravens tomorrow in Baltimore!

I only have one thing to say....

GO TEXANS!

What an incredible season!

1-1/2 hour ride and three transfers later

2012-01-13T07:45:00.001-06:00

Our daughter is still adjusting to life in Austin. That means heavy use of public transportation if she wants to leave campus. No big deal. Austin has a great system.

Getting to church on Sunday's is proving to be an adventure.

The church right next door to the school wasn't a good fit.

So we did some searching and found a few she's interested in visiting.

These ministries were relatively close so we plugged the addresses in the trip planner. She'll have to take three buses for an hour and a half trip one way. Wow. You have to really be desperate for Jesus and corporate worship to make such a trip. Now some would suggest she simply stay in her dorm and tune in to Sunday service online or flip on the TV and attend "bedside Baptist." And in some circumstances that's OK. But there is nothing like physically being in a room full of believers, all on one accord in full blown worship. And this is what she craves.

She said she was going to give it a try.

Where will this Sunday morning find you?

Have a great weekend everyone.

She Never Ever Gave Up: Mission Accomplished Jessie

2012-01-12T10:12:00.000-06:00

Jessie was 12 when she died.

She went to be with Jesus just a few days ago due to an inoperable brain tumor.

But what this 12-year-old accomplished in just a short amount of time is amazing.

Jessie inspired the creation of the NEGU(TM) Foundation which stands for never ever give up. This organization has joined the fight to help families NEGU, no matter what. Jessie also inspired the creation of JoyJars(TM). Jars filled with toys and other things to help spread love and joy to children fighting cancer.

Remarkable right?

Jessie's family laid her to rest yesterday in a celebration of a beautiful life lived.

Would you please keep her family and her siblings in your prayers?

You can add thoughts and prayers to Jessie's Facebook page and donations are gladly accepted by the NEGU Foundation to continue to spread Jessie's message.

If you want to become a member of TeamNEGU, help build JoyJars or know a family in need of one simply follow this link.

Rest in Him Jessica Joy Rees.

Daily Due Diligence and the 80/20 Rule

2012-01-11T09:18:00.003-06:00

Due diligence. Basically it's the part you're responsible for in an agreement or negotiation. Yesterday I was reminded that I have daily due diligence. God has spoken some pretty incredible things and He's good for His part...it's my daily due diligence that has the potential to hold up progress.

My daily due diligence includes:

Spending time in prayer/worship/Word
Working out
Utilizing Weight Watchers (my thinking has changed on this...I used to hate all the counting but now see it as my daily due diligence in God's overall plan for me).
Writing
Connecting with people

I'm currently reading the book Rich by Choice, Poor by Habit by Laurie Johnson. Excellent read! She reviews The 80/20 Rule or the Pareto Principle named after Italian economist and gardener, Vilfredo Federico Damaso Pareto. She says this:

"When applied to your daily life, the 80/20 Rule states that 20 percent of your activities will account for 80 percent of your results. This means if you have a "to do" list of ten items, two of those items will turn out to be worth as much or more than the other eight items put together. The bottom line is this: of all the things you do during a day, only about 20 percent are really of any value and those 20 percent produce 80 percent of your results. Given this -- it makes good sense to spend your time on the things that are of value."

My daily due diligence is based on this 80/20 Rule and are in complete sync with what God wants for me.

What's on your daily due diligence list?

Kobe is not Mac

2012-01-10T07:51:00.000-06:00

We shared our home and hearts with a loveable yet mischievous beagle named Mac for about ten years. The stories about Mac...all true mind you...make him unforgettable. Mac was a carb lover. He would raid our pantry and whole loaves of bread would disappear, hot dog buns, English muffins...he loved it all. I once found a loaf of bread behind a box upstairs in a closet that he was saving for later.

English Muffins gone!

When he was a puppy, Mac destroyed my favorite red shoes and a good pair of boots. Needless to say, we didn't hit it off in the beginning. As far as I was concerned, he was not my dog and I told him that every so often but he never listened. He rarely listened. If Mac picked up a scent, well you could call all day long and he wasn't responding.

Mac was definitely food and scent driven. Trash cans were often raided...seems he loved coffee grinds. Hmmm, maybe he was my dog after all. He didn't play fetch. I teased the only way to get Mac to catch a ball would be to wrap bacon around it; he would go get it but good luck getting him to bring it back.

For ten years, we lived with Mac's antics.

Then he passed away.

Funny how these furry four-legged critters impact your heart and your life.

The kids wanted another dog right away be my husband and I weren't quite ready.

Almost a year later, I knew my spouse was ready for another dog when he made the statement that Jesus was going to bring him a Labrador on His birthday. I started looking. We thought the perfect mix would be a lab/hound mix; smartness of the lab and stature of the hound.

That's when I found Kobe.

He's part lab, part shepherd, part hound.

He was the only boy in the litter, he was very sweet and our hearts melted.

It's been interesting having a puppy in the house; it's like living with a toddler.

Now even though I've mistakenly called Kobe, Mac, they are not the same.

Kobe is driven by play; not food.
Kobe comes when called...Mac thought twice about it and then decided to continue doing what he was doing
Kobe loves the water...Mac hated the water
Kobe is not as scent driven; Mac loved the smell of the block on trash day
Kobe loves fetch; Mac thought it was futile
Kobe is a digger; Mac not so much
Kobe is not a singer; Mac was a great singer

I had to adjust to the new dog in our home. Yes they are/were both dogs but different types. They behave differently because of breed.

Same but Different
Parents know that even though they have multiple children, each child is different and has to be treated according to the unique attributes of the child. With one of my children, all I had to do was look a certain way, the other needed a firmer hand.

Those searching out new houses of worship would do good to remember this.

If Kobe is not Mac, then St. Stephens is not Mt. Moriah and The Word Church is not Celebration Church.

Just because they both convene on Sunday mornings for a time of fellowship doesn't mean they behave or act the same. You'll frustrate yourself walking into a new house, expecting things to be done exactly like the last house. The pastors are different people with different visions being used by God to accomplish one common goal.

Same is true of jobs, spouses, and schools.

If one season has ended and you're walking into something new...just remember my dogs and that Kobe is not Mac and an adjustment is necessary.

On the cutting room floor

2012-01-09T13:18:00.000-06:00

Our oldest is away at college.

That is reason enough to give God mad praise. And not just because we're one step closer to being empty nesters either.

Lindsey was blessed with some last minute scholarships that allowed her to be in the dorm she wanted and even some left over cash for books and other incidentals. She was blessed over and beyond. Everything is paid in full. Even meals. When last minute funding fell through, we were wondering how we were going to pull this off.

Fortunately, being in tough spots like this isn't new for me. I rested in Him. He's come through before so I refused to trip. I called some good friends and asked them to pray. By the end of the day it was done. God had miraculously come through. I'm talking serious overflow and mad favor. She had so much stuff, we had to bring some of it back home.

Now that's usually where most folks end the story and you don't see or hear the part of the testimony that ends up on the cutting room floor. As far as you know everything was smooth sailing from there on out.

Not necessarily.

A friend of mine said that open doors are doors of opposition, doors of opportunity and doors of obligation.

And you better believe this wonderful door of opportunity came with opposition.

Touch your neighbor and say, "the dorms"
She couldn't hide the disappointment when we finally got in her dorm room (that is another blog post for another day). Her friends go to school where the dorms mirror apartments. They have cable and full-sized refrigerators. Not our school. It's an older campus and the dorms haven't been renovated in at least 20 years. The room was dirty. Let's just say we went out and bought a new mattress pad immediately. We dusted, cleaned floors, drawers and mirrors. We put in work!

Now some would ask, was it still a blessing?

You better believe it.

Open doors come with opposition. Ask Joshua and children of Israel when it came time to possess the Promised Land.

What are these walls made of?
Lindsey sent me a message and said that at 4 a.m. she was awakened to the song,"she got a big boootayyyy." Loud music and paper thin walls have her scouring the city for a pair of ear plugs. She says it's ridiculously loud in the dorms and if you know Lindsey loud is not a word used to describe her.

Still, is this door of opportunity a blessing?

Absolutely.

If you didn't know, there's a student loan crisis hovering over this country and anytime you're getting paid to go to school...loan free...is a good thing!

Open doors are also doors of obligation. Lindsey has an obligation to earn her degree with honors. For this semester that means accomplishing the first leg of this journey in a less than ideal place. No worries though. She's already found off-campus housing that allows her to do a roommate search based on personality. Party animals won't be paired with bookworms.

She is working this blessing.

She is taking advantage of this open door of opportunity.

And that's the rest of the testimony from the cutting room floor.

What an opening act!

2012-01-06T08:35:00.002-06:00

What a curtain opener for 2012! There was tension, a miracle unfolded and then there was overflow.

And that was just the first week of the New Year!

Before going to bed last night I had to convince myself that following day would be Friday.

It's been that kind of week.

I will never forget what God did this week.

I will always remember His proven Faithfulness.

I owe Him everything.

2011: End Scene

2011-12-31T05:51:00.001-06:00

Plays, sitcoms, television dramas all have scenes...places where story lines develop. When a scene ends its usually noted in the script with the words "end scene." Lighting, characters, props, costumes and even locations are sometimes changed to coordinate with the new scene.

This New Year's Eve is definitely an end scene moment for me.

2011 was a year of stretching, growing and learning. It was a year of discovery and enlightenment. It was the year of acceptance. There were wins and there were losses. There were certainly disappointments but there was also achievement. I've been building on previous lessons and a lot of things just clicked this year. I'm sure Holy Spirit is saying, finally!

Unless it's a monologue, scenes have supporting characters and designated location(s) where the story unfolds. A friend on Facebook had a great quote on her status. It read:

"Moses was Anointed to Bring the children of Israel OUT of Egypt but Joshua was Anointed to bring them IN to the Promised Land. Principle ~The Lord may use one person to bring you OUT of a bad situation and another to bring you into a good one don't get so caught up in the person. God uses whom He wants." - Ayanna Clark

This absolutely screamed end scene to me.

The set was changing from wilderness to established cities and territories.

Characters were changing; Moses had the lead from Egypt to just outside Canaan. Joshua would now take the lead role.

I think we've all heard the saying that some people are in your life for either a moment, a season or a lifetime and it pays to know to which.

Because of all that unfolded in 2011, a new scene opens in 2012. Some characters will stay, others will leave, new characters will be introduced. Sets have changed and God's production of my life continues.

I'm quite happy to be done with this scene because it was a grueling one and I had to perform my own stunts!

When the clock strikes midnight tonight, it will be God calling "action" for this new scene to begin.

2011 is a wrap ladies and gentlemen.

-End Scene-

Lessons Learned in 2011...Part Two

2011-12-30T09:24:00.000-06:00

Still counting lessons learned in 2011! If you missed yesterday's list you can catch up here. Alright, here we go! Still in no particular order...

Now or Later?
Funny thing, God sometimes reveals things that we mistake are for right now. We assume that we're supposed to act immediately. Sometimes the things He shows are for much later. This was true in lots of areas, especially ministry. Holy Spirit would show me Person A doing XYZ. Well, Person A wasn't bit more ready, capable, trained, or delivered to do XYZ. Here's where costly and dangerous mistakes are made. Putting Person A in that position and it's not time. David was anointed king as a young man. He didn't take the throne until YEARS later. There was in-palace training via Johnathon. There was life on the run. There was a giant to slay. David wasn't ready to take the throne at Samuel's initial anointing. The stage wasn't set either. Saul was still alive. Don't rush the process (click here and read Let Him Test It).

Lesson here: Ask Holy Spirit if what He's revealing is for now or later. Bishop-elect Lamont Hillard said, "open doors will fit your budget!" The business He's showing you may be 10 years out. And don't set people up to fail by installing them in positions and the timing is not right and they have not been duly processed.

Powerful Two Letter Word
I added this powerful two letter word to my vocabulary and it's blessed me. The word is no. There's a recent blog on this and you can read it here. Using this word does not make you a bad person. It does not mean you're unapproachable or unwilling to help. What it does mean is that you've chosen to be a wise steward over what God has entrusted to you. Time, money, other resources; we are accountable for it all. So for maximum effectiveness, sometimes we have to say no.

Lesson here: Place high value on your time and resources. There will be a day of reckoning. (OK, now what about those talents I gave you?)

I'll post a few more later!

Blessings everyone.

Lessons Learned in 2011...Part One

2011-12-29T10:20:00.000-06:00

What a year it's been! I wanted to share some of the most important things I learned this year so here they are in no particular order.

Missed Connections on Craigslist Won't Help
I try not to think about it too hard. All the connections I missed or didn't follow through with because of personal throwed-off thinking. It's a costly thing when you don't have God's perspective about yourself, your purpose and destiny. It's a time killer to try and figure out what is going on in someones head. It is futile to tell yourself stories based on lies and speculation; things contrary to God's word. If valuable connections were missed....God ordained connections because of contrary thinking...Craigslist Missed Connections community won't help. Lesson here: Get God's perspective and hold on to it like a Pit Bull! Walk it out in all confidence and assurance (commonly called a faith walk). You are who He says you are. Period.

Hey That's My Line!

I just finished Zappos CEO Tony Hsieh's book Delivering Happiness and was surprised to see something I heard in prayer. In the book Tony talks about his stint as a poker player and how what he learned playing poker translated to business. The game of poker doesn't begin when you're dealt the cards but begins with choice. Which table do you choose? This was an incredible revelation. I get to choose projects and clients to pursue, I get to choose my inner circle, I get to choose who works with me, I get to choose which events to attend and so on. Of course my choices are Spirit-led but I get to choose. Lesson here: You don't have to accept whatever. Repeat with me; I. Get. To. Choose.

Wow, Now That's Different
After the church closed, ministry started to look real different. We learned so much during that six year period and at some point we'll share what we learned. But what amazed me is this, people who would never step foot in the church, have no problem sitting in my living room for bible study. Seriously. Ruth (not her real name) said she thought my text message inviting her to come was a mistake. She struggled with the invite. She thought she would be the only "white chick" in a room full of charismatic Black women and she was nervous. She made up her mind to attend anyway and do her best to fit in. She was shocked to find that I was the only Black chick in the group and she hasn't missed a study yet! I'm privileged to minister to a growing group of diverse women in my home and the Word and the fellowship are touching lives. Lesson here: Don't be afraid of ministry that forces you to change what you're accustomed to in order to reach those He's called you to.

I'll be back with more lessons learned in 2011.

Six hours to dry

2011-12-27T11:33:00.000-06:00

My hubby and I are working on restoring a very large coffee table. It was covered in white paint and had the NFL Saints logo as drawer handles. Not exactly what we wanted but we knew we could work with the table. And without fail, any piece we buy that's painted white, black or dark green paint is hiding underneath which requires lots more work to strip completely off! So over the Christmas holiday, we stripped paint, we sanded, we spent time in the garage working as a team.

Now we're staining the wood this beautiful deep chocolatey red espresso color and it's gorgeous! This is our first restoration project since the dresser we refinished almost six years ago and I've grown more patient since then.

You see, restoration projects take time. There is no rushing the process along.

All the paint had to be stripped. All of it.
To prep the wood to receive the stain we had to sand with a fine grit sandpaper.
Then you finally get to stain the piece but then you have to wait and let it dry.
Once it dries, you go over the piece again with steel wool to remove imperfections and smooth surface for another application.
Stain once more and let dry.
Steel wool again.
Repeat this process to deepen the color of the stain.

It's a long process and if we cheat on any of the steps,we won't get the desired results.

We were so excited to see the table with it's first application of stain but as beautiful as it was, it wasn't finished. There was more to the process in order to make it perfect.

We just finished a second application and we're waiting for it to dry and it is gorgeous. We have to go over it with the steel wool again and the third application ought to give us the richness in color we're looking for. Then one last pass with the steel wool and it will be finished.

Consider yourself a thing of beauty today in the sight of God...the Master Potter. We all start off like my poor coffee table, covered in layers of paint (sin) with some pretty tacky accessories. But in the hands of the Master Restorer a piece that reflects His glory quickly unfolds.

And just a friendly reminder...you can't rush the process. If it takes six hours to dry...then it takes six hours to dry. Sometimes longer depending on weather conditions.

The restored you is worth the wait and He'll proudly display you, a beautiful reflection of His glory.

Blessings everyone.

Called to do the Impossible

2011-12-20T15:12:00.000-06:00

Every month I host a noon day bible study and today we looked at Mary's story.

God called her to do what seemed impossible.

We talked about how God will ask you to do something just beyond your ability.

Mary was a woman. She could have children. She also knew how babies were made.

One little problem, how would she conceive a child if she had never been with a man?

It was a technicality Holy Spirit would take care of.

He was the super to her natural.

God revealed to Mary her identity..she was favored.
He anticipated and addressed her reaction...told her not to fear.
Gave the assignment...you're going to birth the Messiah.
Gave clarity to the assignment...the Holy Spirit will overshadow you.

Finally what seemed impossible became possible and at the appointed time she delivered a Son.

When God asks you to do the impossible, He identifies, comforts, instructs, gives clarity and brings about manifestation!

Do you know what today is?

2011-12-19T09:02:00.000-06:00

Every wedding anniversary is a testament of continued commitment, love and giving of ourselves to each other. Marriage is indeed a beautiful picture of Christ and His Church, God and His People. One man...one woman wholly interested and invested in the well being of other other. Seeks to satisfy none other and holds in a place of high honor and high regard.

Twenty-four years ago today, I married my best friend and I love my life with him.

Still happily married...still happy to be called his Mrs.

Do you know what today is? It's our anniversary.

I'm Still Nice...But...

2011-12-16T08:37:00.000-06:00

Throughout our life together, my husband has told me that I'm the nice one.

If I were to tell the truth, I wasn't being nice.

I was avoiding conflict. I was worried about how the other person would feel.

I wasn't secure enough, strong enough to say no.

I really believed I was doing the right thing...following Christian principles. I was being the Good Samaritan but there's a fine line the child of God has to walk between being used of God and being used by men who claim to know God.

I'm still amazed at how those looking to get over can pick out "nice" people...especially online.

I have had people in my home who should have never driven down my block let alone be welcomed under my roof. I thought I was thinking of others, helping like the "good book" said when I should have listened to that check in my spirit that said something ain't right.

That was years ago and I've learned costly lessons from being nice.

I'm still nice but I've learned how to say no. I may have a temporary lapse every now and then but for the most part, saying no has grown more comfortable.

I've learned to use wisdom.

I've learned that I do have a choice in where I practice my philanthropic good. (Always Spirit-led mind you.)

And most important, I've learned to recognize takers.

Takers want to monopolize your time and your resources. They don't want you accessible to anyone else. Takers are usually extremely needy. They need a best friend, they need money, they need prayer, they need counseling, they need new shoes, they need a meal, they need shelter and refuge. They need everything and they want it all from you. Takers test the waters and if you fall bait to it once, more than likely you'll do it again. When I met such a person not too long ago, I was more than happy not to return a phone call, email or invite to get to know each other better. No thank you.

What it boiled down to was recognizing who I was in Christ and knowing my own value.

And get this...Jesus is my perfect example. He had a purpose and agenda and He stuck to it. He had divine appointments throughout his three years of ministry and he met them. The Samaritan woman at the well? Divine appointment. Zaccheaus who went out of his way and climbed a tree just to see Jesus? Divine appointment. Jesus encountered thousands of people but he didn't heal them all. Think about that. The man at the gate called Beautiful; that was Peter's divine appointment. Takers will hem you up and keep you from meeting your divine appointments.

So you have to learn how to say no so you're free to say yes to Kingdom assignments...divine appointments.

OK, on the count of three say it with me...

One...

Two...

Three...

NO.

And that doesn't make you a bad person; just a wise one.

Can you see it?

2011-12-14T08:37:00.000-06:00

Over the weekend I had the opportunity to attend my very first vision board party. The purpose is to take what you see inside your head, take the things you want to achieve and give them a face and paste them onto a board. Then hang the board where you can be reminded of these things on a daily basis.

So you know me, lots of scriptures came to mind.

Write the vision and make it plain (Hab. 2:2)
Faith without works is dead (James 2:19-21)
Faith is substance of things hoped for...evidence of things not seen (Heb. 11:1)

The "M" Word
I thought about the board I created. It reflected the desires of my heart and that included more than just things; it included direction and purpose. I pondered this. I pondered King David's words when he wrote that he meditated on God's Word day and night. Some of us living in the West are leery of that word meditate. We normally think of meditation as it relates to Eastern religions but David said he meditated on God's word. And the word simply means to moan, growl, utter, muse, mutter, meditate, devise, plot, speak. I like the word muse.

I've walked with the Lord long enough to learn that He is only obligated to fulfill His Word; nothing more...nothing less so it's worth meditating on.

In Complete Agreement
Next to my vision board is a second vision board. This one is the Word of the Lord displayed visually and it's simply titled "I. Agree." This is my visual reminder that I agree with God's word over my life. I see it, I meditate on it and I agree with His plans. The bible asks the question how can two walk together unless they agree.

I've seen many believers struggle with the Word of the Lord over their lives. They simply don't believe it. A contrary past usually keeps them from agreeing or they're paralyzed with fear. But there comes a time when you have to banish fear, forget the past and agree...become one with the Word. My vision board helps me to meditate or muse, it helps me to remember that I agree with what's already been spoken and settled.

I challenge you to create your own vision board. Display in words and pictures those things that God has spoken...the things He has assured you of and post in your prayer closet and simply watch what unfolds.

Kobe Chronicles

2011-12-10T06:32:00.001-06:00

Our first week with Kobe the Labrador went amazingly well. Of course there were a few accidents and sleepless nights but it's all working wonderfully now. That Cesar Milan knows what he's talking about and labs really are smart breeds. Everybody loves him at PetSmart. Leash training is going pretty good and we've bonded nicely. We're really impressed with the breed too. Can't wait for his first swim at the dog park when he gets bigger and the weather warms. Also want to introduce to him a few dogs in the neighborhood so he can socialize. Next week we'll work on this fetching thing. He'll chase the ball down...it's the return we gotta work on.

Have a great weekend everyone!

What did you say about my ankle?

2011-12-07T07:57:00.001-06:00

It is no lie.

We are fearfully and wonderfully made just like the bible says.

Scientist have always been curious as to what makes us tick and seek out answers to why we do what we do.

When faced with a threat we will do one of two things...fight or flee. Remember the story of Jacob and Esau? If not you can catch up here. What did Jacob do when he learned of his brother's rage? He ran....flight. When David was tending the family sheep and was threatened by wild animals...he fought and won.

We have and develop defensive and coping mechanisms to deal with uncomfortable situations. Projection is such a method and here's how it works.

Let's say you have a negative opinion of yourself. You think:

your ankles are too skinny
you inherited your aunt's 'cankles'
your skin is too dark
your skin is too fair
your big toe is too big
your hair is too curly
your hair is too limp
you're too fat
you're too skinny

You get the picture. There is some part of your being that you're not happy with, you obsess over it and it's always on the forefront of your mind. Sometimes family, friends or complete strangers won't let you forget an imperfection. Now you perceive that everybody thinks and feels the same way about your ankles as you do and you become sensitive and defensive. If someone asks you a question about your shoe or compliments you on your shoes you think somehow the comment or compliment has something to do with your ankles.

Here's the truth...those people aren't the least bit concerned about your ankles.

They liked your shoes and told you so. That's all.

There was no ulterior motive for the mention of the shoes. They weren't using deep mental manipulation, they weren't playing mind games...they were complimenting your shoe.

Living life always on the defensive is no way to live. Even if people are that critical and don't have much else to do with their lives but examine people's ankles they're not worth the mental anguish you put yourself through. You can't control other people's thoughts but you can control yours. You can make peace with yourself and agree with scripture that you are indeed fearfully and wonderfully made. If you're big toe is too big the bible says beautiful are the feet of those that carry the gospel so now!

He whom the Son sets free is free indeed. And there's nothing like being free from thoughts that don't line up with the Father's. There's nothing like being free from other people's opinions.

Today, be in control of your thought life according to scripture and let everybody else be in control of theirs. My prayer is that you respond out of love and out of a place of complete healing.

Blessings everyone.

New to the Pack

2011-12-03T07:27:00.001-06:00

Please help us welcome to our pack, "Puppy". He's an 11-week old Lab/Hound mix. He's a sweet thing and fits perfectly in our pack.We haven't named yet and you should hear the suggestions. Oh dear.

He had a rough start in life (parvo survivor, lost half his litter mates) but is thriving.

Going to the vet today for shots and meds.

Mac the Beagle would be pleased.

Will keep you posted on his name once we can all agree on one!

Mind Control

2011-12-02T10:18:00.001-06:00

Some people are either wired to or learned how to think critically and not in the positive sense. This critique doesn't build up...just tears down. They fail to see the good in anyone or anything. Pessimist take the negative approach to life and always jump to the worst case scenario. Pessimism breeds worry and fear and for the believer this is contrary to how we're supposed to live.

Pat Benatar sang love is a battlefield, well the believer knows that the mind is a battlefield. Jesus said that the person who even thought about committing adultery had already done so. The book of Proverbs teaches us that what a man thinks, that's what he is.

So our thought life is important.

We can't afford to let thoughts contrary to the Word take up residence in our head.

The Apostle Paul said that love doesn't think the worst.

And our transformation is based on a renewed mind.

So when your thoughts get out of control...when you daydream bad outcomes, when thoughts that keep you in a bad situation play out on your inner surround sound system...STOP.

The bible gives us a strategy for our thought life.

You ready?

Thoughts should adhere to the following guidelines; they should be:

True
Honest
Just
Pure
Lovely
Of a Good Report
Virtuous
Praiseworthy

If your thoughts can't be plugged into any of the above, let them go. They don't reflect the mind of Christ and work to weaken your faith and drown out the Spirit which is life and peace.

Silence the pessimism, silence the inner critic, silence the lies and take back control of your thoughts.

Peace is guaranteed when our thought life is in agreement with what God says.

Have a great weekend everyone!

The Insider

2011-12-01T07:00:00.001-06:00

The saying goes it's not what you know but who you know. Those trying to get a break in Hollywood hope they befriend an insider...someone already in the business to help bring them into the business. They need an insider to help give them their first big break. LinkedIn and BranchOut understand this principle. All jobs aren't posted but if you know someone on the inside, you have an incredible advantage. It's who you know.

2 Corinthians 2:10-11 says, "But God has revealed them to us through His Spirit. For the Spirit searches all things, yes, the deep things of God. For what man knows the things of a man except the spirit of the man which is in him? Even so no one knows the things of God except the Spirit of God."

Holy Spirit is our insider.

He is our guide.

He is our key to success.

It dawned on me that Hegai and Holy Spirit shared similarities.

Hadassah (better known as Esther), a Hebrew, was selected to be part of the king's harem. Hadassah found favor with the chief eunuch Hegai.

Now the young woman pleased him, and she obtained his favor; so he readily gave beauty preparations to her, besides her allowance. Then seven choice maidservants were provided for her from the king’s palace, and he moved her and her maidservants to the best place in the house of the women...Now when the turn came for Esther the daughter of Abihail the uncle of Mordecai, who had taken her as his daughter, to go in to the king, she requested nothing but what Hegai the king’s eunuch, the custodian of the women, advised. -Esther 2:9, 15 (NKJV)

Hadassah found favor and leaned heavily on Hegai's guidance. He knew the king. He knew what the king liked and disliked. Hadassah trusted Hegai to prepare her for her moment with the king. In this story, Holy Spirit is like Hegai. He knows the things of God and prepares us (sanctification) for our face-to-face with the King.

As Hadassah prepared to go before the King, she didn't trust herself to prepare herself for this meeting...she only took what Hegai advised.

My prayer today is that we allow Holy Spirit to prepare us for our face-to-face with the King. That we trust Him during our process and only do as He advises. He can be trusted because He intimately knows the King. He won't lead you wrong. You'll do well and advance because of your Inside Connection.

Microphone Check..One Two..One Two

2011-11-30T09:23:00.001-06:00

If you've ever had the pleasure of speaking in front of an audience whether it be for ministry or business...sometimes you get the feeling that you're not connecting with your audience. You get the tell-tale signs that you've lost the audience and the message isn't being received.

I remember turning to my beloved after such an event and while tapping my make believe microphone asking...is this thing on?

What happened?

Why was there a disconnect?

Sometimes...not all the time but sometimes...your message and audience didn't mix. For example, I'll admit that the Church is definitely facing challenges right now. There's so much that can and should be done better. But I'm choosing to be a part of the solution. So any message, sermon, blog post, teaching series about what's wrong with the church is going to absolutely bore me. I already know there's a problem. I'm ready to talk solution. I'm ready to discuss strategy on righting what's wrong. The problem has been clearly identified. So if you were preparing to speak to a group of solution minded leaders, a message rehashing solely what's wrong isn't going to go over well and you're likely to experience a disconnect with your audience and may even lose them as future audience members.

You must have the right message for the right audience.

Consider Jesus and His messages to his varied audiences. He had one message for the Sadducee and Pharisees, another for His disciples and another message for the sinner He encountered. Can you imagine what would have happened if He had mixed the message and the audience?

Right message, right audience.

Happy connecting.

You've Got the Right One Baby

2011-11-25T09:25:00.003-06:00

I'm convinced that the right tool makes all the difference in the world. Whether it's the right makeup brush, computer program, or cutting knife, the right tool helps you work efficiently. Then there's the proper care of the tools that help make your life better. Knives have to be sharpened and makeup brushes have to be cleaned to remain effective.

I was missing key pieces from my cutlery set and bought a new one just before Thanksgiving. Side note: can anyone tell me what happens to knives in the first place and why they go MIA? Anyway, some of the knives were dull and it just made sense to start over with a new set. Chopping veggies for our Thanksgiving meal was effortless and I realized just how much time and energy I'd wasted by attempting a job with an ineffective tool.

My hubby works for a large manufacturer and the company realizes the importance of employees having the right tool. They understand that the price of the tool is insignificant to the revenue generated from increased production.

From now on and especially in 2012, I'm only interested in the right tools, the right resources and the right people to get the job done.

Uh-Huh!

You're Not 'Sly' Are You?

2011-11-22T09:17:00.001-06:00

Elgin and I went to a service Sunday night and the guest minister said the only reason she keeps some people in her phone is so that when they call, she'll know it's them and send the call to voice mail. I chuckled. Later my beloved and I confessed that we immediately thought of Michael Franks' song When Sly Calls.

Don't you dare touch that phone!
When Sly calls
It's tit for tat
When Sly calls
It's rat eat rat
The sky falls
The signal fades
I lock the door and shut the shades
And contemplate the crystal blue familiar funk I'm plunged into
When Sly calls

It's bad business as my sister would say when Sly calls. Nothing is ever right and the news is always bad. The song then says, "Don't touch that phone" in other words let the voice mail pick it up!

We all go through...there's no escaping this truth. The bible says it rains on the just and the unjust. Some may feel that the rainfall in their life resembles Seattle's annual rain totals but we all get "rained on." And in moments of weakness or sheer desperation we'll call someone and pour out our hearts. We want to plead our case, kinda like Job and ask the question, why me or how much longer?

Those on the other end of these calls are left to simply listen and offer words of prayer and encouragement. Some may even have insight and wisdom to share but may not be able to impart those truths because the music from the pity party is up too loud. Place too many of these kinds of phone calls and you may find yourself in the situation described by Mr. Franks and the guest minister.

It takes chutzpah (nerve, shameless audacity) to be in the middle of a storm and maintain a praise. I know complaining, murmuring, sulking and hosting extended pity parties comes very naturally but you run the risk of becoming Sly and not to mention this continued and consistent behavior doesn't represent the Father well.

So what do you do? How do you not become Sly?

We know it's not healthy to keep things bottled inside, that can make you physically ill. We also know that unhealthy coping mechanisms don't do our bodies and/or families any good either.

Heart.org gives the following tips for dealing with the stress in your life. They suggest:

Positive self-talk - This fits perfectly into our Christian beliefs...keep repeating the Word of the Lord and His promises. Donald Lawrence penned powerful lyrics that say sometimes you have to speak a word over yourself. Tell yourself, "I will live and not die!" There are numerous studies on the power of confession and as believers we know death and life are in the power of the tongue!
Emergency stress stoppers - Taking a deep breath was one of the recommendations and I'll amen this one. It. Works. You'd be surprised at how shallow your breathing becomes when you're on the edge. Take a deep breath. Several if needed and repeat the process!
Finding pleasure - I call them diversions. Sometimes real life is a bit much and I find pleasure in comedies. It's good medicine to laugh out loud and for an hour and a half, my mind is not focused on the rain.
Daily relaxation - I'm grateful for living in the U.S., for indoor plumbing and hot water. During stressful times, hot showers totally relax.

Take care of yourselves everyone.

You don't have to be Sly.

Processing

2011-11-21T20:06:00.001-06:00

I'll be back. I'm just...

Already looking forward to next month

2011-11-15T14:54:00.001-06:00

The Come and Drink bible study series continues!

This is really a fabulous group of women and I enjoy our time together.

Today we took communion after the study. Awesome.

The Price of Do-Overs

2011-11-14T08:38:00.001-06:00

I love being a Christian.

Why?

Well one reason is because God allows for do-overs.

We like to say that He's the God of the second chance...(really multiple chances).

But the cost of some do-overs is extremely high.

Start and stops are costly.

Ask any manufacturing plant manager.

If there's a problem with a product, you try your best to correct in real time. Companies will do any and everything from having to completely stop production because of the cost. If the problem can't be corrected in this way and you have stop production, the plant is losing money each minute product is not being produced. And it takes time to get back up to speed.

After every single plane in the U.S. was grounded on 9/11 it was a logistical nightmare restarting the flight system and not to mention costly for airlines. Planes were grounded and forced to land immediately and large 747s ended up in small airports in Canada.

So it's important when restarting to remember the lessons of the past and proceed. Please proceed. Of course you identify and evaluate what went wrong and add that information to your personal SOP (standard operations procedure) manual for next time!

Just because the last run cost you, doesn't mean you cease operations altogether.

A just man falls seven times and still gets back up.

Enough of these costly restarts though have the tendency to work new levels of obedience in a believer. Because you get to a point where you say, I can't afford any more do-overs. I've got to nail this spot on.

You tell yourself, this production facility cannot handle any more down time.

Obedience, submission, continual review and application are sure to keep production running smoothly.

Keep serving, keep loving, keep producing for the Kingdom.

"You've changed"

2011-11-12T11:10:00.001-06:00

Yes it's true. I haven't blogged since Monday.

[insert horror music and gasp here]

It was a week like no other. A good week mind you, just jammed pack.

I spent a good amount of time on the road and had time to ponder a few things. Change weighed heavily on my heart and here's what I've gathered.

Well of course I've changed
Typically when you hear the phrase "you've changed" it's an indictment. Drastic changes such as winning the lottery or losing a lot of weight will often initiate the you've changed and I don't mean for the better assessment. Now true, some people who come into a lot of money or who are suddenly able to shop in the juniors department do suffer temporary insanity. They trade for new and improved, image appropriate spouses or start running with a wrong crowd because of new found wealth. And yes I'd agree those changes are destructive and devastating.

Other changes can also leave others miffed. For instance:

Believing you are who God says you are and walking in that knowledge
Refusing to entertain foolishness
Total abandonment of your will for His
Adopting the mindset of a Kingdom citizen
Allowing Holy Spirit to perfect your function in the Body of Christ

When you make these kinds of changes, a couple of things happen. God's glory is manifest in your life and He shines brighter. (Side note: As a result of all this wonderful anointing on your life...all kinds of people are drawn to it. Some mean you good, others do not. Some attempt to siphon your anointing and your resources. They are not interested in receiving what you pour out freely as God ordains but rather want to illegally attach and deplete you of your anointing and resources.) And I'll go on the witness stand and testify that when you do these things, the blessings of God overtake you.

So when you hear the words "you've changed" you have to say...well of course I have.

As believers we're not called to stagnation.

If we're committed to moving in God's flow then of course we change. Our direction changes. Our outlook changes all because of a decision to follow hard after Jesus.

Of course I've changed. And if you come back next year this time, you'll see even more changes.

Everybody is not comfortable with change and don't want you to make any of your own either. Pastor Shaun King in a recent blog said this, "People L.O.V.E to hear about radical change. They just don’t love making it." I couldn't agree more. Especially if its change that needs to happen internally or personally.

So if you're making changes in accordance with the word of God...if you're chasing hard after Him in all that you do...if you're making your way through this sanctification process and somebody hurls the indictment, you've changed. Just look 'em in the eye and say thank you for noticing. Then keep moving forward.

Blessings everyone.

Are you ready to go virtual?

2011-11-07T09:16:00.000-06:00

If you've ever hosted a conference, you know the time and money it takes to produce a successful conference. If you've ever attended a conference you know the planning and cost associated with attending such an event especially if you must travel. Conferences have the ability to empower whether it be personally or spiritually and leave you changed.

Last year I attended my first ever virtual conference. It was sponsored by a marketing firm and probably one of the best conferences I've ever attended. It was a great experience. You get to meet other conference attendees via chat rooms. There are even event sponsors and vendors with virtual booths you can interact with. I was quite pleased with the overall experience and would attend another no questions asked.

And I will next week!

Krista Dunk of Koinonia Business Women is hosting a virtual women's conference called Breakthrough Conference 2011 on November 14-18. The whole conference takes place online. There is a small registration fee but compared to the cost of attending a live event, it's an incredible savings. Business owners can even buy vendor space and promote their products. (If you attend be sure to look for EVC!) There's a great line-up of speakers and their topics will cover spiritual growth, personal development, health issues and finances. Go to the Breakthrough Conference Web site and check it out!

We can chat online at the conference!

I should really know this by now

2011-11-06T16:12:00.002-06:00

Without fail, whenever a Sunday morning gets off to a rough start...that's my clue that God is up to something. I promise this happens more times than not. It's a good distraction for the blessing to come. I wasn't clear on our plans for this morning when I went for my morning walk. I did three miles in about 45 minutes...my personal best! Thank you very much. :)

When I walk in the door, looking and smelling every bit of of the three miles I just power walked, I find out I have about 20 minutes to make myself presentable to the public. I started to stay home. And needless to say my attitude was not good. But I worked a miracle. I was able to shower, get dressed, and catch a quick yogurt/strawberry/granola snack. Makeup would have to be done on the way to the church.

In the craziness of my morning, I didn't realize it was all a setup for an incredible blessing. I'm still in awe. Now, work is involved but I know how to recognize a blessing. And not to mention Apostle Adrienne Williams just posted a status on preparation/getting things in order the night before on Facebook. And that's what I've been doing. Getting ready. Preparing. And the labor has paid off. Some woman of God I know preached a message awhile ago saying that the prepared get to move in His now.

We went to church and left in a better situation than we came. Only. God.

I'm going to have to be mindful of those Sundays I'm tempted to stay home because things go haywire. I would hate to miss a move of God due to the enemy's distraction.

Moving forward...

Day Break

2011-11-05T04:41:00.000-05:00

A new day is dawning and I'm getting ready to crawl back into bed. The house is completely quiet, everyone is asleep so no one needs anything and I can get some work done. I can think. I can review new material and ponder new ideas uninterrupted. I love this time.

Lessons Learned
Good people wanted
One of the biggest lesson learned this week was to stay focused. Stay on task is what my daughter's elementary school teacher would say. Our daughter often struggled in this area. Wonder where she got that from? I learned that when you're a person of integrity, character and skill...people will want you on their team. You have to know your mission and stick to it. You have to know God's purpose and plan and not deviate from it. Stay on task.

Love My Textbook

A mystery has been revealed and it was in my text book of all places! I've been pouring over the chapters and soaking it all in. I've learned so much and a huge weight was lifted. No joke, knowledge is power!

New Resources

David Who?

Sometimes I'm a little late to the party but I get there! Just learned of the David Allen Company. Wow. This gentleman has over one million Twitter followers. Where have I been? LOL! I subscribed to his newsletter and have added his blog to my RSS feed. He says this on his site:

If you are an entrepreneur starting a new business, a person who needs better management skills, a stay-at-home worker, a busy mom or student—we can help. We’ll help you find the right control and perspective. We’ve assisted millions of people find a smarter way to work and live.

This really resonated with me. My life looks completely different from a year ago and a little guidance walking in this new place is appreciated. Which led me to another realization. As one becomes more successful, as you start walking out destiny and purpose...your dependence on the Lord, your dependence on Holy Spirit's wisdom is increased...not decreased. Time in His presence and in His word cannot be neglected..at all. So someone to keep you on your toes spiritually...someone who isn't mesmerized by all your wonderfulness is needed. You're going to need that balance.

Do you Zoho?

I was reintroduced to Zoho.com and love this online program. It's a customer relationship management (CRM) tool and it's great for tracking client calls and meetings. You can feed into your sales pipeline and it has a host of other features. I've been attending way too many meetings not to be organized.

Today is a new day.

Good morning everyone.

OK, really though Lord?

2011-11-02T15:59:00.000-05:00

There are certain things that have always left a bad taste in my mouth. I immediately turn up my noise, roll my eyes and start humming to myself so I can't hear. I know God knows this and I'm convinced He has a sense of humor. The very thing I said I'd NEVER do...the thing that TURNS ME OFF the most is the one thing I'm giving careful consideration to. I'm like really though God? I never even saw it coming. I also know this, just because I'm good at something doesn't mean I jump head first and do it. Ooooo been there, done that and got the bandage from the head wound it caused.

So prayerfully considering an offer on the table. His Word gets fulfilled in ways we hadn't even considered. Even ways that had previously left bad tastes in our mouths. I'm certain David didn't think the road to kingship would be a stint through the wilderness while on the run from a king whose mind wasn't stable.

We'll see how all of this works out!

For the love of money...Training the kids

2011-11-01T08:26:00.004-05:00

Our youngest child is a thinker, an observer much like his father. I have fielded questions on politics, the human condition and yes, even money.

Earlier this year he asked me about stocks and shares. I explained how the process works and used Apple (AAPL) as an example. Apple shares weren't always $400/share. I told him had I been savvy enough to buy shares back in 1984...well one can only sigh now. He said he was interested in buying stock and I applauded him.We would open a bank account for him and he could purchase shares through Sharebuilder.com (now ING). If you don't have the entire $400 bucks to buy a single Apple share you can purchase a percentage of the stock until you own a full share.

The Lord blessed him with some extra cash and I told him we would use part of it to open his bank account. He was miffed. He immediately wanted to go to Gamestop and I told him no. We had a plan and we were sticking to those financial plans. He wanted to save for some things, purchase some stock and we were going to start the process. Sunday afternoon he was still not a happy camper.

Yesterday evening after talking to his sister and seeing a few things, he tells me he thinks it is a good idea to save some of the money and open his account. I think to myself...you have chosen wisely grasshopper!

At the dinner table I told him, if you listen and obey my words you'll never have to stand and declare "my broke days are over." Heed my instruction and never be duped inside or outside the church. Bind this wisdom around your neck and don't let anyone tell you not to think where your money is concerned. That devil is a liar. Follow my example and give cheerfully to the Lord what is rightfully due Him.Walk in my footsteps and learn how to be a good steward over what God entrusts to you. Do as I do and let Holy Spirit lead you.

I've made some mistakes financially, and I'm training our children not to make those same mistakes and not to fall prey to scams. Because when we leave our children an inheritance, I'm going to need them not to blow it. Our grandchildren and great-grand children are also recipients of this inheritance. I need our children to be givers but not by manipulation. I need them to be wise. They must be able to hear and clearly identify His voice and be obedient to what He says. His sheep know His voice and another they will not follow. If they do this, then I have done my job. I have trained up children in the way they should go who will then strengthen the body of Christ as wise, Spirit-led believers.

Connections that bless

2011-10-31T18:57:00.000-05:00

I've spent the day pondering connections. I thought about the people who are connected to me either through business, family or ministry. People who I'd love to spend more time with but life, physical distance, and schedules get in the way. We communicate via email, Facebook and text messages or sometimes talk on the phone but I miss being in their presence. I miss spending time with them. I miss laughing till my sides hurt over a great meal. Some I only know through cyberspace and would love to sit down with them over a good cup of coffee or a glass of sweet tea.

Some folk in my life aren't going anywhere. I don't care how long it's been since our last conversation. We pick up like there was no time in between and I love them dearly. I do want to do something about all that time in between though. There are other connections that are loose that I desire to strengthen and I'm working on those.

I will call one name and one name only just because I've mentioned her before. I met Pastor Deanna in person once. She came and ministered at a women's event we had YEARS ago. I would love to be in her presence again. I want to meet Larry and Savvy and Dustin and Jordan and of course Max and Maddie. I want to go on a bike ride with her during a Tampa sunset just once before we leave this earth one way or another. I need to drink Cuban coffee and taste this Cuban sandwich she keeps talking about and of course there is some hair accessory shopping to do.

I value my connections. I appreciate the people God has placed in my life and I'm even thankful for new connections too. And for the connections that made me want to pull out my hair, I thank God for those as well. I wouldn't be able to identify some things had they not passed through my life.

I thank God for all of them. You see a few things, you experience somethings and it really makes you appreciate the people God has placed in your life. I'll be the first to admit that I'm far from perfect and wish I would have known more to handle some connections...some relationships differently. But all I have is right here and right now and I choose to let those who remain know how much I love and appreciate them. And somehow, someway find a way to strengthen that bond and stay connected.

Weekend Potpourri

2011-10-29T19:52:00.000-05:00

There comes a point...
When you have to walk out forgiveness. I keep rehearsing the sermon from a few weeks ago; what do you do when the people who hurt you come back and they need your help? (The Joseph story). You can try to ignore their needs but your Jesus-like heart and compassion won't let you. At some point you do the right thing and your heart is connected to the charity you show. There comes a point when the past doesn't matter and you do the right thing...and you do it from your heart.

I Am Married to the most Wonderful Man on the Planet...Really
I'm amazed at all he gets done. Last week, I had two early morning appointments on two different days after two nights of bad sleep. It made for long, tiring days. Unfortunately, this is a common occurrence for my beloved. I told him I don't know how he does it. I'm definitely more compassionate and understanding and try to make things easier and more comfortable for him.

He has managed to keep our cars running and even brought one back to life. I am so grateful I married a man who knows how to use an oscilloscope and soldering iron (and whatever else is in his toolbox).

Then he has the audacity to be an amazing musician. I love it when he plays the piano in the dark.

New Connections
I have met the coolest people this week! Wow! I have meetings scheduled for next week and am really excited about these connections. All the business cards I've collected have been entered and I've reached out to everyone on LinkedIn and Twitter. I learned a long time ago, even though God blesses you...anoints you to do a thing...there's still your part to play. I've learned so much from the seminars and meetings this week. When one of the speakers from the AMA meeting said we need to net fish I could have fell out of my seat! Read recent blog post and you'll understand why.

Endomondo.com is the Business
I love this Web site. It tracks my outdoor workouts. It tells me how fast my pace was and how far I walked. I can share my stats with family and friends and it's a great accountability tool. And my partners for a healthier me don't have to ask me if I worked out. If they get an update, I worked out...if they don't...well, I took a day off and I'll hear about it if I take too many days off.

Almost done
Just eight more classes before my undergraduate work is complete. My goal is to test out of three of them. I've grown weary of paper writing and quizzes; especially the quizzes. I did ace my last class and remain on the dean's list. I'm working hard to keep my GPA up in the hopes that I'll be inducted into one more honor society; the Alpha Sigma Lambda.

Looking forward to worship tomorrow and celebrating the affirmation service of a pastor friend we know. We certainly wish him continued success!

Good night!

Lord, Just Don't Let Me Get Sea Sick

2011-10-26T14:38:00.000-05:00

I'm sitting in an EARLY morning business seminar and Holy Spirit is real talkative. I keep hearing "cast a wider net." And what does the speaker talk about in his lovely lecture? Expanding your circle of influence and then gave us the steps to do so. Fishing with a net on a pole isn't going to cut it and that makes sense if "harvest is ripe and laborers are few." Commercial fishing requires commercial grade tools.

Direct marketers know that if you're looking for 100 event attendees then you send out at least 1,000 invitations...at least. You have to cast a wider net in a bigger pool of water. I've been quite hesitant to do this and had a well-articulated argument for my behavior. Well all that lovely reasoning is still sitting shattered on the conference room floor. I came home and immediately put into play (power move) what the speaker suggested.

Now I know a few folk that have been fishing out in deep waters and are experienced in tossing these wide nets. Sometimes what you catch ain't cute or edible. These dear souls have had their words skewed, names maligned, and there have been times they were ready to pull in their nets and call it a day. Chris Brogan has caught holy heck for reeling in part of his net and have you ever read the comments on popular blogger's sites or certain articles? Yikes!

But I know this...where there is great risk, there is also great reward.

Signed,

I Didn't Know I Was Pregnant!

2011-10-25T07:46:00.000-05:00

There's a TV show that depicts the life of women who had no idea they were pregnant. They find themselves in emergency rooms delivering babies they didn't even know they carried. Some deliver in precarious places like truckstop bathrooms.

Some of these new moms have been pregnant before and delivered healthy babies. And I ask the same question everyone asks, how could they not know? These women give reasonable, believable answers but it boils down to not believing the symptoms.

If you think not knowing you were pregnant is amazing, how about delivering a baby and not knowing you delivered?

Yea.

Here's how it happens.

Through Holy Spirit's revelation it's declared that certain gifts, calling, anointing, ministry, lie within you and at the proper time, these things will come forth. You receive the word with gladness and you prepare... sometimes for months, sometimes for years...for the thing God wants to do in your life.

You keep hearing that the anointing is great, the ministry is great and oh my God the anointing that's on your life, so you keep believing God for this spectacular show of greatness. All the while, you're walking in obedience, you're ministering to people, you're praying, you're pouring out what God has placed in you and people's lives are changed. But yet you think you're still waiting to birth something great.

Can I share some good news with some of you?

Congratulations...you already have.

You keep thinking there's something more and discount the perfectly healthy baby you have.

You think this can't be it.

Yea, it is.

You may have missed the midwife's declaration but that doesn't mean you didn't deliver.

You're not passed due, you delivered and didn't believe it. You thought the delivery would be more majestic, more spectacular. The greatest man to walk this earth was born outdoors, in a feeding trough.

You just need to embrace what God has given you and nurture it.

To keep looking for something else, to keep discounting and ignore what you've already been given will result in its demise.

What Holy Spirit has given you is great. There may be no oohhs and ahhhs, no lightning bolts or earthquakes, no bright lights and fanfare but believe me that does not take away from the greatness at work in you.

Trust me, all of Heaven and hell knows you delivered and now you know.

Congratulations.

Bleeding on Facebook

2011-10-19T10:32:00.001-05:00

This graphic was in my Facebook stream this morning. There were lots of amens and cyber high fives but I couldn't bring myself to join in.

On the surface it rings true.

But I know there's more to the sometimes uncomfortable and unsettling disclosure of one's personal business on social media networks.

I've read plenty of Facebook statuses that make me shake my head and leave me asking why. What's particularly grievous is when leaders bleed all over Facebook. I've asked myself many times, isn't there someone offline they can talk to about that? It's painful to watch and if you're not in close relationship with that person, you're left to pray and/or reach out and hope they won't lash out at you for trying to help. This isn't uncommon and you have to be Holy Spirit led in such cases.

Pastor Deanna wrote a post recently and shared a few stats of those who hold pastoral office. One in particular said that 70 percent of pastors don't have a close friend. That stat stopped me cold. Could this be why so many of us, pastors and lay members alike air our issues on Facebook? We don't have close friends and our social media networks are the one place we can vent?

A very new and very real issue facing social media users is depression. According to recent news articles, people who are already experiencing feelings of isolation can have those feeling exasperated in an online community. We tend to post only the good things in our statuses and it can make others feel like their lives are crap which tends to deepen the depression. Experts recommend logging off. They say unplug from the grid...take a social media hiatus.

It dawned on me that many of us lack intimate relationships; intimacy being defined as a close, familiar, and usually affectionate or loving personal relationship with another person or group. We have loose connections at church, at work, and even online but intimate relationships are either too few, not well-maintained or non-existent.

Intimate relationships take time to build and we all seem to be a pretty busy lot and we're left feeling empty. My guess is that is why some of us are bleeding on Facebook. We are social creatures (some more than others) and need intimacy with at least one other person. Then there's the place in our heart that only God can fill and no relationship or possession can ever fill that space.

How many times do you check your Facebook page in a day? How about Twitter? What if no one responds to your witty post or clever tweet? How does this make you feel? If you unplugged from social media what would you do? How would you spend your time? Who would you spend that time with? Social media is supposed to connect us and enhance relationships. But I think it's done more to expose our lack of intimate relationships and show us how lonely some of us really are. Honestly, we don't even believe the lie we tell ourselves that "we don't need nobody." The truth is we do...and the posts on Facebook prove it.

A short prayer

Lord Jesus I pray for those who are only loosely connected to people and groups and feel a void in their lives. They know You, love You but lack an intimate connection with another human being. I pray for leaders who lead in isolation; who lack a true friend in whom they can be themselves. I pray for husbands and wives who rush through their days and fail to connect with each other. Between the kids and the bills Lord, they've neglected one another and feel alone even when they're together. I pray for single parents, single brothers and sisters who are looking for companionship; someone to share their lives with so they don't have to go it alone. Lord help us to trust again. Help us to love again. In Jesus' name. Amen.

Ministry in the 'Burbs

2011-10-18T15:23:00.001-05:00

We gathered again for noon day Bible study today.

We are moms and business owners determined to walk out our faith.

This is ministry in the 'burbs.

The unity in our fellowship is pleasant just as the bible describes (Psalms 133:1). There is a blessing in coming together; we strengthen one another and pray for one another.

This is ministry in the 'burbs.

We started a series, Come & Drink. We're looking to Jesus who beckons you who are thirsty, come and drink (John 7:37)!

We started with the prophet Isaiah's offer...come and drink, come and buy milk and wine without cost. We considered his question why do we buy and spend wages on what does not satisfy.

Back again!

Cheesecake by Carolyn!

Tomorrow one of the ladies and I will take ministry on the road and be the hands and feet of Jesus to a fellow believer.

This is ministry in the 'burbs.

And of course there's the breaking of bread!

If your schedule permits you should join us next month! We meet every third Tuesday and it's time well spent! Just send me a message and I'll get all the information to you.

Blessings everyone!

Well, What Are You Going to do About That?

2011-10-17T11:39:00.000-05:00

Last week, I went for a routine doctor visit.

The doctor in his heavy British accent dispensed with the pleasantries.

Dcotor: How are you?

Me: Well!

Doctor: Are you working?

Yes: From home.

Doctor: Oh so you're the cook and bottle cap washer?

Me: [Laughing], Yes basically.

Doctor: So what do you do to relax?

Me: Um...er...well...um....

Doctor: I see, so what are we going to do to change that?

And he left it right there.

Called out again on this whole relaxation, take care of yourself thing. Man!

He congratulated me on the weight loss, on the lower BMI, and overall good numbers.

But I've been ordered to relax.

So over the weekend, I did just that.

And to ensure continued weight loss and good numbers, relaxation is a practice I must adopt regularly.

In all of your doing...and doing the right things...don't forget to take a moment to decompress.

So I'll ask you like the good doctor asked me, so what are you going to do to relax?

Have a great week everyone!

Ouch! Final score 0-58. Time to reset the bar!

2011-10-14T07:58:00.003-05:00

At the beginning of the school year, parents of middle school football players gathered in the school's gym and we situated ourselves on bleachers to hear what the coaches had to say.

For some of these boys, this would be the first time they ever suited up in football pads and a helmet.

As the meeting started, the coach uttered a string of sentences that I wonder if he now wishes he could take back.

He said that if the guys could open their lockers and get all their equipment on and then out on the field then that was a huge win.

If that's the expectation then the guys win every week, it's just not reflected on the scoreboard. Our team has had some devastating losses. Our worst lost being 50 something to zero. Now there are a couple of kids who make plays and try hard. One kid has to be both blocker and ball carrier but I digress.

I see the coaches pacing the sidelines. I see their frustration. The guys look defeated.

And that's when I wonder if the coaches could go back would they change those words?

They will have to change this rhetoric next season. Simply getting dressed and showing up can no longer be the goal; it has to be the minimum requirement if you have aspirations of winning football games.

Are there areas in your life where you've set the bar too low?

Have you said:

any job will do
any man/woman will do
as long as the kids aren't on drugs will do
as long as he brings home a check; I don't care where he sleeps, that will do
as long as she doesn't get pregnant, that will do
as long as I don't make him mad, that will do
as long as no one knows, that will do
as long as I don't get caught, that will do
as long as they're not failing, that will do
going to church twice a year/once a week will do

There's a frustration that gnaws when you live beneath the bar God has set for your life.

You have to know there is more.

You have to know that in your tongue lies the power of death and life (Proverbs 18:21).

This weekend, ponder if there are areas in your life where you've set the bar too low. You can always reset them according to God's purpose and plan for your life.

Now please know when you reset the bar, when new goals are defined, when new challenges are set; you will have to fight to reach those goals. You'll have to dig in deep, tighten your chin strap, stare your opponent down and in all confidence declare, you're going down.

Pom-poms in hand; I'm rooting for you.

Have a great weekend everyone.

P.S. You can always send me prayer request through the "Contact Lisa" tab. It would be an honor to pray with you.

You have to know

2011-10-13T09:38:00.000-05:00

In the news not too long ago was the story of a couple who had a baby but agreed not to tell the child its sex...its gender. They would let the child decide and fall into whatever role the child felt most comfortable. I see lots of problems with this and feel for this child.

These parents refuse to validate what nature has dictated. I think it's kind of cruel actually.

To see someone for who they really are but withhold that information from them so they can spend their life trying to find themselves is cruel. The parents knew all along. The question then becomes, why didn't you tell me? Why didn't you confirm me? Why would you let me walk around confused and unsure? It's one thing to tell a child who they are, what great things lie within them and what they're capable of and they don't believe but to not tell them at all is quite another story.

Even God the Father validated Jesus at His baptism. He said (1) this is my beloved Son (identity confirmed) and (2) declared his sheer pleasure or how He felt about His Son. Again I don't understand the reasoning for parents withholding this much needed validation...spiritual parents included.

You also have individuals who are paralyzed and remain on the hunt for man's validation of their spiritual worth. That validation comes from God himself and comes through time in His word and in His presence. You have to know and believe what God has spoken about you; even if He spoke that word through credible and loving vessels!

Beloved you have to know.

You have to be convinced.

You see God validates through His word and He doesn't lie.

He's not withholding how He feels about you or what He says about you. It's clearly laid out for us.

We have to know and stand on what we know. The biggest obstacles to believing are:

refusing to let go of past mistakes and failures;
feelings of unworthiness; and
feeling ill-equipped.

We wait, we want a second opinion from family and friends and all the time God has confirmed his great love toward us.

You have to know He gifted you. (Ephesians 4:8)
You have to know you're called. (1 Peter 2:9)
You have to know He has plans for you...good plans. (Jeremiah 29:11)
You have to know He uses imperfect people. (See entire Bible)
You have to know it's HIM at work in you. (Philippians 2:13)

You have to know, that as a believer, He's already validated you. He's already spoken about you.

So yes you can do all that He's shown you and entrusted to you whether it's regarding your family, your business or ministry or even your own health and personal development.

You have to know and believe that you are who God says you are; even if parents, colleagues, family or friends ever admit it.

You have to know.

Pack Leader

2011-10-11T07:39:00.000-05:00

Most recently there was Mac the Beagle, then Cocoa's 1 & 2, there was Luke and before him was Sampson the Cocker Spaniel who was hit by car and didn't survive his injuries. One thing I learned about having Cocker Spaniels is that if they get out of the yard for any reason, the likelihood of them being returned is slim. Sigh.

Then there was the brief sharing of our home with cats. Never again; we are not cat people.

Finally there was Muffin, the Australian shepherd our very first dog.

What I know now that I didn't fully know or embrace then is that every dog needs a pack leader. I've watched a few episodes of Ceasar Milan's the Dog Whisperer and can see where I made some mistakes; especially with the Cocker Spaniels. They need a strong pack leader.

Dogs without a pack leader will assume the position and this usually causes havoc in many homes across America. Dogs have become more than pets, they have become family members and I can see how this can create a problem if the dog learns that they are in charge.

Dogs learn by repetition; cause and response. Unfortunately a lot of the unwanted behaviors our dogs exhibit are behaviors we teach them or were learned from a previous owner.

So my husband is convinced that Jesus is going to bring him a Labrador on His birthday...December 25. You have to know my husband to appreciate the humor here and yes we know Jesus was not born in December. This is code for I think I'm ready for a new dog. It's been eight months since Mac the Beagle passed away and we may finally be making the move to add another four-legged family member.

But this time, thanks to Mr. Milan I know what to do.

I know I can't make a dog a human.

I know I can't ascribe human emotions to a dog.

I know we must declare a pack leader and it can't be the dog.

I know dogs need jobs.

I know dogs can add happiness and companionship to an existing "pack." (Lots of research on benefit of therapy dogs.)

We're going to pick wisely; some breeds rank higher when it comes to intelligence and I think we're definitely headed that route. I'm still hesitant about a big dog in the house.

We'll just see if Jesus drops off that Labrador come Christmas morning.

What we share

2011-10-10T16:18:00.002-05:00

Our youngest was sick over the weekend and it's my job to nurse children, spouses even parents living under this roof back to health.

Well the thing about being comforter and checking symptoms and of course praying is that the chances are great that you too will catch the same thing your loved one has if its contagious.

Sure enough, I've found myself in bed all day. It started last night and this is the strongest I've felt all day. Our youngest was able to kick this bug in about 48 hours and he assures me that tomorrow I'll be better. He was so apologetic. I told him I would do it again, it's what moms do.

So from his lips to God's ears, praying I feel more like myself tomorrow.

What do moms and their kids share? Communicable diseases! Gotta love life as a mom.

Happy Monday everyone.

It's over and also the beginning

2011-10-06T15:55:00.000-05:00

I SAID, I would start my business again after I graduated from school next year.

I absolutely love how God has plans so different from our own! I also know that obedience is key in the life of the child of God.

So I've been diligently working and preparing and today is the day.

Ellis Valin Communications opens its doors for business.

All the prep work for this day is over, but it's also the beginning of something wonderful. And I'm excited.

I'm grateful for all the Kingdom connections and prayers that brought about this business.

I thank God for the hard lessons learned and wisdom gained over the years that have prepared me for this moment.

Here's the video clip of the big announcement!

Moving forward!

T-minus 12 hours

2011-10-05T21:50:00.000-05:00

Today has been filled with preparations for tomorrow's launch. There's still one small thing to do but everything else is ready to go! I know full well that the LORD desires and blesses the obedience of His children. I said, I was going to wait and do this next year. Well, let's just say I'm a year early! Being obedient to Holy Spirit's instructions always works for your good. It will ALWAYS benefit the child of God to be obedient. Always.

Resting in Him.

Good night!

The beauty in cooperation

2011-10-04T07:02:00.002-05:00

Have you ever worked with an individual and their first response to any question is no...can't be done... or I don't think so? These people are often unwilling to cooperate and offer strong resistance to any forward movement.

Cooperation allows things to get done effectively...smoothly. The bible asks the question how can two walk together unless they agree? Cooperation. Agreement. Are there areas in your life where Holy Spirit needs your cooperation but you've been resistant? Hesitant? I assure you cooperation makes the journey much more pleasant.

When two things cooperate and work together...seamlessly...almost effortlessly...it is a thing of beauty. So is the life of the believer who is in concert, who is in cooperation with God's plan.

Will you pray this simple prayer today? Holy Spirit I am a willing partner, a fully-engaged, cooperating partner in God's plan for my life. I take my foot off the brakes and allow the Father's plan for my life to unfold as He sees fit. I am in complete agreement and offer my unwavering cooperation. In Jesus' name. Amen.

Scary Grown Up Stuff

2011-10-03T13:10:00.004-05:00

Silver is an incredible woman I met online years ago and I'm certain I've mentioned her before on this blog. When Sil has to deal with important matters, she calls it her scary grown up stuff.

Scary grown up stuff can be anything from paying bills, pressing legal matters, investment dealings, or transitioning from being your parent's child to parenting them. Scary grown up stuff is all the stuff you'd rather not deal with but have to because time has dictated you no are no longer a child. Time says you're an adult and responsible adults take care of business, i.e. scary grown up stuff.

My confession
There are a couple of scary grown up items that I've put off that I have to deal with now and I hate it. How I feel though has no bearing on this situation whatsoever. This has to be done so I suck it up and be about the scary grown up stuff. Hoping and wishing for Jesus' soon return hasn't resulted in the rapture of the church so I keep plugging away at the scary grown up stuff since it's not going away. And it's amazing what continues to build and grow when you don't tackle challenges sooner.

Unexpected Results
Amazingly, tackling the scary grown up stuff offers a sense of accomplishment. Now don't get me wrong. This is hard work and I knew it would be...thus the reason for the delay! But I'm proud of me for progressing in an area that was truly difficult. Every time I grit my teeth and check off an initiative on this monumental to-do list I exhale. I've had temporary moments of childish relapse but they're farther and fewer in between. I'm thinking if I took this on and am still alive to blog about it, I can do anything. The word of God was correct yet again; I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.

Is there some scary grown up stuff you're putting off? I hate to be the bearer of bad news but scary grown up stuff accrues interest; it grows. That's why the pea-sized lump under the carpet is now the size of a Rocky Mountain boulder.

I know you wish it would simply disappear and go away. Trust me I know.

I know you wish Jesus would eradicate it, but He hasn't. He faced His own scary grown up stuff too.

Scary grown up stuff has to be dealt with; whether it be issues in your marriage, job, business, finances, church or ministry.

Can I pray for you today?

Jesus, I pray for everyone who happens across this post and has some scary grown up stuff they've been putting off. I pray they rely on Your strength and come to know you as the LORD GOD who causes them to triumph in every area of their life.

Holy Spirit lead and guide them into all truth, even the truth about the scary grown up stuff. Give them explicit directions on how to handle and then let it all work out for their good just as the Bible declares.

I pray they experience the peace of God and comfort of Holy Spirit in this difficult time.

In Jesus' name...Amen.

It's kinda like that scene from Trading Places

2011-10-01T20:39:00.000-05:00

As believers Jesus has called us to do things differently. Jesus said stuff like love your enemy and bless those that curse you.

He even questioned the purpose of only doing good for those who could repay you. Where's the God in that?

God's instructions often baffle the wise.

Who orders a military to put worshipers before the fighting men and walk around a walled city as strategic military planning?

God does.

How we carry out Jesus' mission very much reminded me of one of the closing scenes in Trading Places.

Louis and Valentine know something the rest of the brokers on the trading room floor do not. They have the inside scoop on the orange crop. The antagonists in the movie...Mortimer and Randolph Dukes believe they have the inside scoop and are buying frozen orange juice futures like crazy driving up the price. Everyone else does likewise suspecting that the Dukes know something. Meanwhile Louis and Valentine are selling shares. You can view the scene here.

In the end Louis and Valentine make a ton of money and it's all because they had inside information. While everyone else was buying, they were selling. The confidence...the smugness they exude on the floor is what tickles me. They know the truth and that truth is about to pay off. So while everyone is headed downstream, they confidently paddle upstream.

Fellow believers! We have inside information! We can confidently obey God and live by His word which is contrary to the world knowing that victory is ours!

Go ahead and high five somebody and tell them my living holy is paying off!

Enjoy your weekend!

Three things to remember

2011-09-30T10:52:00.001-05:00

Happy Friday!

I was reminded of three important lessons this week and wanted to share them.

#1 Remember to Share
We come across a lot of great content online. Some of it brings illumination and other content makes us laugh. Some content offers varying thoughts on subject matter that really cause us to think.

There are even some great graphics and cartoons that make us laugh out loud or simply encourage us. Once you run across this great content, share it. If you're on Facebook or Twitter it's so easy to forward to specific individuals or even to those in your group. Granted there's a lot of cyber noise but relevant, insightful information is always welcomed. You already have a good idea of the content your friends, family or online audience would appreciate so share it when you come across it.

Also don't be afraid or hesitant to share feed back or a comment. It doesn't have to be long and drawn out. Just a quick note to the content originator that their post reached you and it's appreciated.

#2 Remember to Follow-up
I've seen several people do this on Twitter and have yet to implement this simple yet effective task. If you're in business or ministry and new people follow you, send them a direct message asking how you might be of service to them. I had a new follower ask me this and based on his line of business...he may very well be able to help me on a project! He may have a new client just because he asked.

Now this is pretty manageable if you don't have hundreds of followers everyday. It's a way to connect and meet the right people.

#3 Remember Social Media is more than a Dumping Ground
So many business and ministry leaders dump their content on Facebook and Twitter and rarely engage in conversations. The network then becomes this one-way conversation and there's so much more to be gained than by just dumping content and logging off. Respond to another user's content...offer a prayer in the comments for someone requesting prayer. Be the ears, hands and feet of Jesus even in a cyber setting like Facebook. If you're called to social media, it's a call to be engaged.

Have a great weekend everyone!

See you Monday...Lord willing and the creek don't rise.

Oh and here's a link to a post about waiting for that perfect moment.

The Ideal Moment

2011-09-29T08:32:00.000-05:00

The ideal moment may never come. (Not to be mistaken with God-ordained appointed times; those happen like clockwork!)

Ideal moments fixate on a particular season when everything is right.

The money is right.
Your schedule is right.
The kids are right.
The spouse is right.
The church or ministry is right.
The business is right.
The job is right.
Your resume is right.
The degree program is right.
The house is furnished just right.
The car is right.
The wardrobe is right.

Everything is right and only when all things are right, then will we do what we know is right.

Waiting for things to be right is an excuse to put off what needs to be done now...when things aren't so right.

Paul said this:

Not that I speak from want, for I have learned to be content in whatever circumstances I am. I know how to get along with humble means, and I also know how to live in prosperity; in any and every circumstance I have learned the secret of being filled and going hungry, both of having abundance and suffering need. - Philippians 4: 11-12

Being content with where you are right now means you can accomplish important tasks without everything being right.

If I keep waiting on the right moment to track meals it won't get done. I can wait on the perfect time to exercise and that moment will never come.

Waiting for some euphoric moment in the future to take care of pressing issues today boils down to fear.

Fearful that you won't like what you'll find if you create a budget and track expenses.
Fearful that you will have to change (eating habits, spending patterns, how you spend your time...)
Fearful that you will have to let some things go (throwed-off thinking, people, bad habits)

But the good news is God has not given us a spirit of fear. Instead He's given us the spirit of power, love and a sound mind.

Today if you're waiting on everything to be right before you do what needs to be done...stop waiting. Now is the time. Today is the perfect day to track your meals, get a quick workout in, make a healthy food choice, change your spending habits, write the intro to your book or do whatever it is that you put off for that perfect time and place. Today is even the perfect day to give your heart to Jesus or rededicate yourself if you've walked away. That time and space where everything is right...may never happen.

Let's get it done today!

Aw, do I have to?

2011-09-27T10:51:00.001-05:00

Spend time with a child long enough and you'll hear the words "aw, do I have to?"

This questions is usually asked when an order is given (clean up your room, walk the dog) and is in direct conflict to what the child wants to do.

Either the child will comply with the request or disobey; both have their consequences. Some make up their minds rather quickly if they will or will not obey. Some kids weigh the options and would rather take the punishment than stop what they're doing.

Others have moments where they struggle internally over what to do.

Jesus tells a parable about a father and two sons. The father asks both sons to do a task. The first son says, of course, I'll do it and never does it. The second son says flat out, I ain't doing it; but later complies. Jesus asked which one of these obeyed the father's request? The one who mouthed off but eventually gave the father what he wanted is credited with obedience.

The second sound struggled with the request of his father. Maybe he had a hot date, maybe he was tired, maybe his bunion hurt...the bible doesn't say. He apparently had reasons that caused him to struggle with the request. The bible says he soon repented and did what was asked of him.

Sometimes, the thing God asks of us is met with, aw do I have to? We're not always willing and the request causes stress in our lives because it's contrary to what we want to do.

Even Jesus had such a moment. Yes he did. He asked the Father in the Garden of Gethsemane if there was an option B. What was being asked of Him, His purpose for coming was about to unfold and it was going to be brutal. So great was this internal struggle, that the bible says Jesus' sweat appeared as drops as blood (a condition known as hematidrosis).

Talk about pressure. After a battle of wills, Jesus submitted his will for His Father's and was obedient to death on the cross. That's why the bible says that Jesus is very well acquainted with our griefs and sorrows. He was tempted in all points just as we are, even when it comes to submitting our will.

Beloved, you're not alone in your struggle!

Jesus himself knows what it is like to be faced with a challenge...to be asked to do something that results in pain and discomfort. He knows what it is to have a task so heavy placed upon you that you begin to ask for a plan B. The inner struggle is real. The hard choices we have to make sometimes make us sweat. But in the end we find peace in submitting to the will of the Father. CeCe Winans sings a song it wasn't easy, but it was worth it.

As your will and God's will struggle in your own personal garden, I pray you trust in His strength to do it His way. Then may you experience His peace and receive a righteous reward for your obedience.

In Jesus' name.

Take Two: Starting Over

2011-09-26T12:07:00.000-05:00

This is our flower bed and it's currently overrun with weeds. I pull weeds from the root every other day or so to no avail. My sweet neighbor says the free mulch distributed by the homebuilder might be the culprit. So I've decided to dig it all up and start over. I remember posting about possibly using some of the native flowers just to make life easier.

The thing about starting over though is that you're not exactly starting over from scratch. You carry with you the lesson learned from last time. You know what not to do. In the case of my flower bed, I have to be more selective about what mulch I use. So I've become wiser through this whole process.

Even though I'm not looking forward to shoveling dirt and refuse to think about the money previously invested in this flower bed, I do anticipate the day I can sit on the front porch and admire a thing of beauty...all because I knew when to cut my losses and start over.

Blessings everyone.

They're Bound to Come Back

2011-09-25T15:50:00.003-05:00

We're still out and about...visiting different places and learning A LOT.

Today the pastor retold the story of Joseph...the one the musical is based on. You can read the account here.

One of the points in the message was this...the one that hurt you will be the very one to need you. To this he asked what would our response be to these individuals? This struck me deeply.

I've sat through many sermons and Sunday School lessons and Joseph's revenge is normally skipped because in the end he did the right thing. Kind of like the part of the movie in Tyler Perry's Diary of Mad Black Woman when the estranged wife gets even with the philandering husband but eventually did the right thing and showed him kindness.

Joseph framed his brothers with theft, imprisoned one of them and spoke very harshly to them.

But in the end, he forgave his brothers and confessed that what his brothers had meant for evil...God meant for good. God sent Joseph ahead of his family to "save much people alive." (There was a terrible famine and Egypt was the only place where you could buy food...read the story...it's really good.)

So how do you respond to the one who hurt you who now needs you?

Are you allowed to get even? Just a little bit? I think that's why this part of the story is often bypassed because it deals with a real human response. He responded like most (not all) of us would if we were in a similar situation. It's the ultimate I told you so. I think the fulfillment of Joseph's God-given dreams was more than enough to humble the whole family.

I think Joseph's heart condemned him and that was the reason for the loud weeping in the latter part of the story...purely speculation on my part because the bible does not give us a reason. .

Again, how do you respond to the one who hurt you who now needs you?

Do you do the right thing and wait for your heart to catch up? Because it is possible to do the right thing and your heart be separate from the act. The Children of Israel were notorious for doing the right thing as far as fasts and sacrifices. Yet God loathed the offerings because their hearts were far from him.

So just how do you respond to the one who hurt you who now needs you?

I believe it boils down to forgiveness and seeing the situation illuminated through God's plan and purpose. Joseph said it had to happen the way it did so that God could use me to save much people alive.

Maybe you're not saving an entire nation from famine, but your forgiveness and doing the right thing does have impact. These are opportunities to show the grace and mercy of our God in every day life.

LORD this week, help us to forgive those who hurt us and now need us, help our hearts catch up to the good we may already be doing and thank you for using us to save much people alive.

Have a great week everyone.

Maximum Glory

2011-09-23T09:49:00.000-05:00

Here's what I know for sure.

God deserves glory and desires to be glorified by and through His people.

I know glory should be directed to Him and not ourselves. David said not unto us LORD, but unto You, give Your name glory. (Psalms 115:1). Paul said that light afflictions even worked in us a far more exceeding eternal weight of glory (2 Cor4:17). Glory is expressed (to Him) and extracted (from us).

I know this too about our Father...nothing gets wasted. Marred clay gets reused and leftovers are gathered.

We sing the song, in my life LORD be glorified...be glorified today. But if we're honest, we don't always like how glory is extracted from our lives.

Some ask how can God get glory out of me being in this situation? How does it bring the Father glory if my back is up against the wall or if I'm in ill health?

The prophet Isaiah had this to say...

But the LORD was pleased
To crush Him, putting Him to grief;
If He would render Himself as a guilt offering,
He will see His offspring,
He will prolong His days,
And the good pleasure of the LORD will prosper in His hand.
-Isaiah 53:10 NASB

The Father didn't spare His own son...there was glory to be had. There was salvation to bring about. He would receive maximum glory for bringing about salvation to all mankind and restoring man's fallen relationship.

I remember studying the exodus of the Children of Israel out of Egypt when one particular scripture floored me. Exodus 14:17-18 (NASB) says:

As for Me, behold, I will harden the hearts of the Egyptians so that they will go in after them; and I will be honored through Pharaoh and all his army, through his chariots and his horsemen. Then the Egyptians will know that I am the LORD, when I am honored through Pharaoh, through his chariots and his horsemen.”

You have the LORD ALMIGHTY setting up a situation for maximum glory. He declared He would most certainly get his honor or glory (kabad is Hebrew word used which is same word used for glory) out of Pharaoh and it would come through a sticky situation for the Children of Israel. They would have to endure a crazed enemy in hot pursuit with seemingly no way of escape.

This was all a setup for God's glory. The whole encounter was designed to strengthen their faith in their STRONG DELIVERER.

This trial was by design in order to extract maximum glory.

Do you still want Him to be glorified in your life?

Even if that means sometimes being tossed from the frying pan and into the fire?

Challenging isn't it? To think that a loving God would allow and even setup situations to try our faith that bring glory to His name. But, we have this assurance:

And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose. - Romans 8:28

Be encouraged beloved. Whatever you may be going through...its the Glory of God that is being expressed and extracted in and from the lives of His sons and daughters. If you suffer with Him, you will most certainly reign with Him. There is a reward for allowing His glory to manifest through you.

Have a wonderful weekend!

When you get what you've always wanted

2011-09-22T12:38:00.002-05:00

I think it's safe to say, I always wanted to work from home. I remember scouring ads for telecommuting jobs back in the 90s with absolutely no luck. I especially wanted to be home after the birth of our children and I did for awhile. But when I finally returned to the 9-to-5 grind, it was so hard leaving those little faces behind!

Well here I am.

Home.

Mr. NFL is loving it by the way.

But what I've discovered is that being home requires lots of discipline.

I got what I always wanted and realize me being home has to be managed.

When I did work a 9-to-5 working out was easier. I went to the gym after work and that was it. My work out was done. I had variety and people to work out with. Not the case when you're home solo.

There are distractions and lots of them.

There are lots of tasks and projects to complete and my Google calendar has been my time management savior. Because it is so easy to get side tracked, I've realized that I must schedule exercise...put it on my calendar and set an alarm!

I'll be honest...there are days I miss having an office to go to...that way I'm not constantly reminded about laundry that needs to be put away, floors that need vacuuming or dishes that need to be put away.

But here I am, learning how to manage my time at home.

I got what I always wanted...not necessarily under the conditions that I would have preferred but I'm here.

And a schedule is mandatory or else absolutely nothing would get done. Me being home has demanded that I schedule and plan my time. No such thing as flying by the seat of my pants.

Ask yourself, when you get what you've always wanted...how will you manage it?

Blessings everyone!

How cool is that?

2011-09-21T08:27:00.001-05:00

Sunday evening we worshiped with biker chicks and biker dudes.

I love how we all worshiped the same Jesus with hands lifted in complete surrender.

How cool is that?

Yesterday one of my dearest friends turned 40!

Happy birthday Michica!

How cool is that?

Today our daughter turns 20. No longer a teenager. A beautiful woman of God finding her way in this world with Holy Spirit leading. Happy birthday Lindsey!

How cool is that?

Mr. NFL and company won their football game last night!

How cool is that?

Jesus answers prayer.

Holy Spirit is faithful to instruct and lead.

The steps of a good man and woman are ordered by the Lord.

Goodness and mercy follows the believer all the days of their lives.

The hungry and thirsty heart gets filled.

No weapon formed against his people shall prosper.

All things work together for the good of those who love Jesus and are called to His purpose.

Now really, how cool is that?

What Really Matters?

2011-09-20T14:11:00.000-05:00

Emily, Erica and Carolyn - after bible study we broke bread (or cookies in this case).

What really matters?That's the question I asked the ladies who came to the noon day bible study. We came up with a very lengthy list of things we believed mattered. We agreed that things that matter change as we age and mature. What mattered at 20 may not matter at 40.

But one thing has not changed and that thing is you. You matter to the heart of God. We talked about why we matter. We talked about our relationships with Jesus and how that should really matter. We talked about relationship with Him versus being busy for Him. Mae Mobley, a maid in the movie The Help, taught a little girl this manta, "You is kind. You is smart. You is important." We left the bible study saying, "You is loved. You is valuable. You is chosen."

We had a good time and there's excitement for the next one. My neighbor even suggested we review the gifts of the Spirit next time so that's what we'll do!

I promise God keeps me in awe.

The rain came

2011-09-19T06:47:00.000-05:00

This morning I woke up to the sound of rain. Not a stray, scattered shower, but rain. Glorious rain. That ridge of high pressure that sat over our state is gone and the rains have finally come!

I'm thankful for appointed times and due season!

Ms. Lucy's Brew

2011-09-18T08:03:00.000-05:00

Ms. Lucy and I shared office space at a small weekly newspaper some 15 years ago; we were the art department. Ms. Lucy, an older woman, embraced technology, knew her way around her Mac computer and was proficient using QuarkXpress. We spent some late nights in that place on production days.

I remember her being a strong woman and she liked her coffee just as strong.

You wanted to beat Ms. Lucy to the office so you could brew a pot of normal people coffee. If Ms. Lucy beat you to the office (she often did) you were forced to endure coffee so strong it could grow hair on your chest. Ms. Lucy's brew was black and that's how she drank it. There wasn't enough cream or sugar to make Ms. Lucy's brew palatable! And she drank her potent concoction all day. She would even microwave her over-sized cup it if it got cold. Once Christmas I think we finally bought her a plug-in coffee cup warmer. Ms. Lucy would laugh at us and call us sad because we couldn't handle her brew.

I thought of her the other day when my mom informed me that my coffee was bitter. (Yea, she's back!) Well, I agree with Pastor Deanna, life is too short for bad or weak coffee. Warm, brown, coffee-flavored water is so unappealing. Coffee needs to have a bite but still be smooth...it should have an edge if you will.

Then I thought about the aging process and how our sense of taste changes. Could this be why Ms. Lucy's brew was so strong? Is my sense of taste changing?

These are things I ponder this morning over a good, hot, steaming cup of Joe this morning. Not as strong as Ms. Lucy's brew but strong enough.

Enjoy the presence of the MOST HIGH today.

September Birthday Babies

2011-09-17T12:23:00.004-05:00

September is packed full of birthdays.

Of course there's my dad who I've been blogging about in honor of his birthday. Then there's our daughter who will no longer be considered a teenager as she'll turn 20. My sister-in-law celebrates a birthday and I promise she's doing this aging thing in reverse. Dory is absolutely gorgeous! Then there's my good friend Michica who is finally turning 40 and another family friend Mr. Trent Jackson will celebrate his birthday the day after my dad's birthday. Not to mention our nephew Sean who has a birthday exactly seven days after Lindsey's. Since she's the shortest of all her cousins she relishes in the fact that she is at least older than one of them....LOL!

And all these birthdays fall within the same 10-day window!

Happy birthday all you September babies!

Love you all bunches!

Finally broken

2011-09-15T09:10:00.001-05:00

Today the weatherman said that our triple digit temperatures are done.

Anyone living in Texas welcomes this news.

This summer has been incredibly brutal and dry.

The recent rash of wild fires will attest to that fact.

Some parts of Texas have a 21 inch rain deficit and we had a record number of days over 100 degrees. As a matter of fact, the heat in Houston broke lots of records this year.

But no matter how long, how brutal, how dry a season may have been...even if the seasons seemed to have overlapped...seasons do change.

According to the calendar summer gives way to fall on September 23rd.

Thankfully the earth's rotation and shift seemed to have finally dislodged that ridge of high pressure that planted itself over our state at the beginning of summer.

There's even talk of rain.

We have small percentages of rain every day for the next seven days and we can all be encouraged by what is taking place in my current home state.

Here's what I've learned from Summer 2011:

Fires are eventually contained or burn themselves out. These fires were not eternal. (Prayers for the families who lost everything due to these fires.)
No season lasts indefinitely. Our streak of triple digit temps had to be broken and summer WILL give way to fall at some point. This is Texas and fall temps won't realistically show up till November but summer will succumb to fall.
Adaptation required. I couldn't change the heat but I could change how I lived in the heat. That meant making some changes to our home, getting errands done earlier and not getting gas in the middle of the day. If I had not made changes, it would have cost us financially. And heat stroke is no joke! Change was necessary so we could continue to live.

I didn't think I would ever celebrate temps in the low 90s but I am. I've never wanted 10 and 20 percent chances of rain to manifest more than I do now. I pray those rain chances represent the cloud the size of a man's hand!

If you're in a particularly hard season right now as are most Americans...just and unjust...look to the Lone Star State as a ray of hope. No matter how long, how hot, how dry your season maybe...shift occurs, the earth rotates and seasons change.

The triple digit temps and the extreme heat are finally broken.

Be encouraged everyone.

Game Day

2011-09-13T09:06:00.002-05:00

Today our son will start in the first game of the season.

He picked up his game jersey this morning and received his favorite number. He'll wear it all day today...he and along with all his other teammates. I was prepared to follow him into school and grab a picture of him in his jersey but he very sweetly suggested I wait till after school. At least today is picture day and he'll take his class photo in it so I will get my photo!

My football duties start today. I'm working the concession stands for the second game while he watches his friends play.

Love, love, love game day!

Dish washing: the in-home therapy session

2011-09-12T10:05:00.000-05:00

Fourth in a series of birthday tributes to my dad.

As a kid, washing dishes was my most hated chore. Really. I hated it. Even as a young wife in our own place, I still hated this chore.

When we made the move from Los Angeles to Houston and discovered that most of the houses considered dishwashers standard equipment in homes and apartments...I was a happy camper.

I did not hesitate to use this wonderful piece of modern technology. Our children however haven't grown to love or appreciate this technological wonder as I have. They have no idea what it is to stand in front of a mountain of dishes after a holiday meal. All they have to do is load dishes and start. What's not to love? What's not to appreciate?

My dad moved to Houston shortly after we did and he didn't share my excitement for the dishwasher. He still washes dishes the old-fashioned way...a sink full of hot, soapy water, just a little bleach, and a ton of dish towels. His perfectly working dishwasher acts a storage device! The horror! I asked him why in the world would he still do this by hand? His response baffled me...he said it was therapeutic.

Therapeutic? Are you serious?

What in the world is therapeutic about hand-washing dishes?

Well, I think I know. Especially since our dishwasher is in the process of being repaired.

Here's what I've learned to appreciate about hand-washing dishes as an adult.

Multitasking takes a break. You can't text, tweet, or check your FB status or email when your hands are submerged under hot soapy water. It's a simple task that requires you stay engaged in the moment. Not too many of my daily tasks demand I stay in the moment and I like it.
Quality time with your self. Usually the kitchen is empty when I take on this task and the solitude is welcomed. I can pray...I can day dream...I can listen to TV...I can think. This treasured gift was completely unexpected.
Quality time with others.When the kitchen is at its busiest, I have real conversations with the people I love. They'll put away clean dishes as I start a sink full of dirty dishes awaiting their sudsy baptism and we'll talk. We talk about all kinds of stuff and I realize its moments like these that matter.

My dad was right.

Washing dishes is therapeutic; he was right all along.

It just took me 30 years and a busted dishwasher to find that out.

Thanks Dad.

Happy Birthday.

More birthday tributes below.

Dish washing - In-home therapy
He Taught Me to Share

Richard Pryor and Alfred Hitchcock
He Gave Me Music

It was ten years ago today

2011-09-11T04:30:00.000-05:00

American flags were in short supply days and weeks after the 9/11 attacks.

Ten years ago today, I was on my way to work for an engineering firm listening to NPR. As I was pulling into the parking lot, the radio host said that a plane had struck one of the Twin Towers. I thought some wayward Cessna had veered horribly off course. I was wrong.

I remember watching the second plane hit and couldn't believe America was under attack on her own soil.

Then there was news of another hijacked plane. But this plane never made its destination. Some very brave souls heard about the attacks and knew their plane was also being used as a weapon. They stormed the cockpit and the plane crashed in a field in Pennsylvania. Then another plane struck the Pentagon.

Today we remember those who sacrificed their lives for their friends. We remember all the moms, dads, husbands, wives, aunts, uncles, grandparents, cousins, sisters and brothers who perished on that day. We remember the survivors. We celebrate first responders, military personnel, and air traffic controllers who landed 5,000 planes in an hour. We remember the national pride that swept across the country. We were one nation under God. We remember the bag pipes that played at funeral after funeral. We remember the look on President Bush's face when he received the news.

Today we'll share stories of survival and rebirth.

Today we'll once again celebrate heroic acts.

Today we renew our vow to never forget.

A life of its own

2011-09-09T08:55:00.000-05:00

Yesterday's post had everything to do with a spiritual condition...itching ears...and I used floppy-eared, four-legged fur babies to make the illustration. Click here to read, "Oh those ears!"

In one community where I posted, the devotional took on a life of its own. And I don't think it had anything to do with poor writing or a bad headline either! :)

It became about pet owners who were concerned with their pets' health.

I am currently praying for Annie the black lab who suffers from severe allergies, Jacque the poodle who has frequent ear infections and then Bubba the spaniel-mix who has had an ear infection for over a year.

Now before you judge harshly know this...in scripture we learn of God's great concern for his creation...even animals. Jesus said not a single sparrow falls to the ground and the Lord not know about it. Even the servant who lost a borrowed axe in the water experienced a miracle when the prophet followed God's instruction and caused a metal axe to float.

In one of my favorite passages, God was listening to all these so-called wise men and had a few questions of His own. In Job 38:3 He commanded Job, "Gird up now thy loins like a man; for I will demand of thee, and answer thou me." God says, you know so much, where were you when I created the heavens and so on. Powerful stuff! It's a poetic passage and shows the power of our God. It puts everybody in their place...God is the only one who is exalted. God asks in Job 39:1-4:

Knowest thou the time when the wild goats of the rock bring forth? or canst thou mark when the hinds do calve? Canst thou number the months that they fulfil? or knowest thou the time when they bring forth? They bow themselves, they bring forth their young ones, they cast out their sorrows. Their young ones are in good liking, they grow up with corn; they go forth, and return not unto them.Who hath sent out the wild ass free? or who hath loosed the bands of the wild ass?

God is concerned about all His creation...animals included. Never have these words been truer than in the life of my friend Pastor Deanna and Maddie the bull dog. Maddie was hit by a car, her back broken and prognosis bleak.

Pastor Deanna sent out a request for family and friends to pray for Maddie.

And God heard us. He healed Maddie.

You can click the links and follow the story for yourself.

Prayers for Maddie
Second Day After Maddie's Accident
Update on Madeline
Things we do for love
There can be miracles when you believe

God used yesterday's illustration to remind us that He is concerned about the things that concern us; including our pets. It was a reminder that He heals and that healing isn't reserved for humans. Say what you will...Maddie is living proof!

I'm OK with the post accomplishing what it did yesterday in that online community. We can believe God to do the amazing in every area of our lives. I appreciate Pastor Deanna so much for her unshakeable faith. There is nothing outside of God's control...not even a bull dog with a broken back.

What a wonderful reminder going into the weekend. God will perfect those things that concern us and that He is the LORD GOD ALL-POWERFUL.

I pray your faith be renewed and I encourage you to read Job 38 and 39 and see the awesomeness of the God you serve. Not only does He care about our pets...He cares about you too. Not only does He heal our four-legged babies, He heals us where we hurt too.

Have a great weekend everyone.

Oh those ears!

2011-09-08T07:59:00.001-05:00

Mac the Beagle aka Macky Whacky...Puppy Whuppy."He's got puppy ears and a puppy tail..."

We've been pet parents to puppies with big floppy ears...Cocoa the Cocker Spaniel and Mac the Beagle. Puppies with those adorable, floppy ears have to have their ears checked often because ear infections and ear mites can cause your four-legged friend lots of problems.

Symptoms for an ear infection include shaking of the head and scratching of the ears. These babies have itching ears because it's difficult for air to get in and dry the ear canal. The warm, moist area is a breeding ground for infection. Not treating these conditions can lead to deafness in your pet.

A Cocoa look-alike.

2 Timothy 4:3-4 says, "For the time will come when they will not endure sound doctrine; but after their own lusts shall they heap to themselves teachers, having itching ears; And they shall turn away their ears from the truth, and shall be turned unto fables."

So Paul tells us that some Christians suffer from the same thing my cocker spaniel and beagle did; itching ears. Have you ever tried to give a dog ear drops? I can tell you from experience...it's not easy and it's terribly messy. All the resistance and head shaking and then the rubbing of the ears on the carpet trying to get the drops out; it's quite the process but it has to be done for puppy's own good health.

In verse two of the passage above, Paul tells Timothy to preach the word in season and out of season; to reprove, rebuke, exhort with all long suffering and doctrine. Why? Because of this itching ear phenomenon. Believing fables instead of the Word of the Lord is spiritual deafness and according to this passage; it's our own doing.

Lust seems to be the organism that triggers the infection and multiplies in the ear creating a real problem. There's the tale-tale sign of the head shaking (they shall turn away their ears from the truth) that alerts all to the condition.

How to avoid itching ear and prevent spiritual deafness
If lust unchecked (lust being defined as a craving, longing, desire for what is forbidden) is what multiplies and causes the problem, then not feeding lust, entertaining lust, accommodating lust is a good first start. But lust is terribly strong and very alluring and if we're going to be honest...satisfying lust feels so good.

So we'll need to:

Pray - and pray often. Get others to pray with you. The effectual and fervent prayers of righteous people gets stuff done!
Fast - The disciples were stunned that they weren't able to cast out a particular demon...Jesus said "this kind" only goes by fasting and prayer. Know that fasting is an excellent lust killer.
Accountability - Institute all kinds of safeguards. Electronic accountability and online filtering services are available.
Make no provision for it! The Apostle Paul said that best. And the bible also asks the question...can a man take coal into his bosom and not be burned. The answer of course is no. Don't play with it...leave it alone. Don't tempt yourself!
Love God's truth - even when it contradicts and confronts. Embrace it, accept it and you will live.

What happens when lust (bacteria) grows, you'll hear yourself saying things like, God understands and I don't believe God would do xyz (i.e "fables"). You'll find a bunch of people with the same itching ear condition who will substantiate the lies you've told yourself so the lust can continue to grow.

You don't have to be a member of the itching ear congregation.

Lord, help us keep lust in check. Let us master it and it not master us. Strengthen us so we're not drawn away by our own lust.

For those struggling, I pray you connect them with men and women of God who will pray with them, encourage them, hold them accountable, speak the truth to them in love and help set them free.

Thank you that those you set free; are free indeed.

In Jesus' name.

He taught me to share

2011-09-07T07:28:00.000-05:00

If you know my dad, you know the man is an amazing cook who also has a knack for baking. Two words. Have. Mercy. My grandfather was also a baker and brought over left over croissants from his job at the Farmer's Market in Los Angeles. I'll call it a blessing to be surrounded by men who could cook and bake! My dad did the majority of the cooking in our home due to his work schedule and no meal was complete without dessert.

My dad didn't just cook for his immediate family but he shared his gift for making magic in the kitchen with others. My first lessons in charity came from watching my dad. He took countless number of plates to sick friends and family and even little old ladies. And his attitude was always the same; no big deal. To this day he says, "It was nothing." He doesn't like a big fuss over his acts of kindness. He's simply doing what he does best; sharing his gift with some folk in need.

Any talk of a catering business goes in one ear and out the other.

My dad taught me that if you've been gifted to do something, you share it freely with others in need.

Thanks Dad.

Some would argue I learned this lesson too well! LOL!

Happy Birthday!

You can read more birthday tributes here:
Dish washing - In-home therapy
He Taught Me to Share

Richard Pryor and Alfred Hitchcock
He Gave Me Music

The Life of a Leader

2011-09-06T08:54:00.000-05:00

Based on the biblical story of King David.
1 & 2 Samuel

Discounted by family - Samuel to Jesse...do you have any more sons?
Prophet assigned - anoints and confirms you as God's choice; Samuel anointed David. Also tells you the truth about yourself. Nathan to David...thou art the man.
Period of solitude - perfect skills, develop intimate relationship with God who called you, practice your craft. David slew the lion and bear and practiced his music while tending the sheep alone in the wilderness.
Motives questioned - you just came down here to see the battle!
Boldness required - asks the hard questions; who is this uncircumcised Philistine?
Internships available - someone to show you how to behave in the place where you'll lead; Jonathon showed David how to walk in the palace
Enemies guaranteed - David was on the run quite a bit. Spent a lot of time in caves and in remote areas.
Mistakes assured - Learn from David, coverups soon unravel - expect a visit from the prophet if not handled honestly.
Character and integrity required - would not lay a hand on Saul even though he had motive and opportunity.
Betrayal happens - from those you lead and even your own family.
Prayer life necessary - David often put on the linen ephod and sought the Lord. Lord shall I pursue and recover all?

Let's pray for leaders today.

Richard Pryor and Alfred Hitchcock

2011-09-05T09:33:00.000-05:00

These beautiful people are my parents on their wedding day.

Photo by: toni d'ambrosio

I recently shared that my dad had an avid record collection and he played it on something similar to the photo to the right. Stereo's were multifunctional. Not only did it house the speakers, the turntable, and the eight-track cassette player but it also doubled as a very heavy piece of furniture!

I have very vivid memories of my dad laid out next to this thing with huge ear phones on cracking up. He would laugh so hard and I always wondered what he was listening too and why couldn't I listen. Parenting 101 according to my dad said, little ears have no business listening to Richard Pryor's blue comedy.

Some kids aren't so lucky today. There's a disturbing YouTube video of a two-year old smoking a blunt while her mother records the whole ordeal. She tells her daughter not to smoke it all and to give it back. And something tells me this wasn't the little girl's first blunt either. She smoked that thing like a pro. That little girls' mom is still doing time as far as I know.

At 20-something years old, my dad knew enough to protect my innocent ears. He knew Richard Pryor was not kid friendly content. Thanks dad. Now I eventually found out what was so funny. As a preteen, curiosity got the better of me and I put on the headphones and gave a listen. Sorry...LOL! Let's just say it wasn't the same Richard Pryor I'd seen on TV!

Now while Richard Pryor was off limits...Alfred Hitchcock and the Twilight Zone were not. We lived in an apartment on Palmwood Drive in Los Angeles and I remember him coming home from work (he worked graveyard shift) and me sitting down watching TV with him.

My beloved still thinks it's hilarious because I won't watch those shows to this day! They completely creeped me out! Especially that Alfred Hitchcook. *shudder* But I wanted to be with my dad. He knew enough to protect me from Richard Pryor but had no idea Alfred Hitchcock kept me up many a night. I didn't say anything because I didn't want to be told to go to bed. I wanted to be with him.

Happy Birthday Dad!

You did good.

You can read previous birthday tributes here:
Dish washing - In-home therapy
He Taught Me to Share

Richard Pryor and Alfred Hitchcock
He Gave Me Music

He Gave Me Music

2011-09-03T07:20:00.000-05:00

My twin, my father has a birthday this month and I'm going to write a couple of blog posts celebrating him. If you are offended by secular music you may want to skip the next couple of posts. Blessings...

My dad had an equally massive amount of LPs.

I know about Chaka Kahn and Rufus, The Isley Brothers, Aretha Franklin, Earth, Wind & Fire because of my dad. This man had a massive record collection. I can recall the covers of most of these because I spent a lot of time with them. I admired the artwork, I enjoyed the music. I know what's now considered old school because of him. And much of this music is the soundtrack to my life and yes, I still enjoy the music.

As a preteen, his Michael Jackson albums were my favorite. The Off the Wall and Thriller albums made this preteen girl swoon. Almost every song on the Off The Wall album was a favorite. Girlfriend...I'm gonna tell your boyfriend...yeah. Or she's out of my life, she's out of my life. Then of course Don't Stop Till You Get Enough and Rock With You were big hits and I even liked...It's the falling in love and Lady in my Life. I knew all the words. And I played them all the time whenever I went to his house and he never complained. He never told me to turn it down or asked if we had to listen to Working Day and Night again. His music was mine to enjoy.

Thriller was just about all the spookiness I could handle as a kid. Yes, I was incredibly scary! But it was incredible music and my dad had it all.

My love for music is forever linked to my dad. It's what we have in common. Music is what we share. There's no way I can hear some of these songs and not think of him or remember sitting on the floor with those album covers all around me.

Happy Birthday twin. Thank you for exposing me to some of the greatest music and artists the world has ever known. Because of you, I know who everybody's sampling! LOL!

One of my favorites from his collection is Chaka Kahn's Tell Me Something Good. Released in 1974 and written by Stevie Wonder. Chaka Kahn is still an amazing singer with incredible range. Enjoy.

You can read more birthday tributes here:
Dish washing - In-home therapy
He Taught Me to Share

Richard Pryor and Alfred Hitchcock
He Gave Me Music

Ding, Ding, Ding, Ding, Ding!

2011-09-02T09:50:00.002-05:00

Yesterday's Twitter feed:

LisaNAlexander Sep 01, 11:34am via HootSuite

Sometimes you sit in the corner, drink water, catch your breath before getting back in the fight

LisaNAlexander Sep 01, 11:34am via HootSuite

Then there are times you stand & pace itching to get back in the fight.

LisaNAlexander Sep 01, 11:37am via HootSuite

I'll sit and drink the water this round.

campterri: @LisaNAlexander ding ding ding, back in for another round! :)

Alrighty...

The race is won by those who endure to the end.

Rest in between rounds if you must.

But don't dare throw in the towel!

Let's do this.

Have a great weekend everyone!

Thankful Thursday

2011-09-01T02:35:00.000-05:00

This Thursday, I'm thankful for my mom's recovery. God answered prayers. Her physical therapist is so impressed with her strength and muscle tone. Mom is moving around without the help of her walker or cane and I'm really proud of her. She's been working hard in addition to all the prayers.

I'm thankful for my beloved. What an incredible man. He is so deserving of every good and perfect gift that the Father has for him. A wonderful man of wisdom with an infectious smile and I get to spend my life with him.

Mr. NFL is thankful and we're proud that he starts on the A team this season. I'll be the mom in the concession stand cheering loudly for all our guys. I love my life as a football mom.

I'm thankful for wonderful friends and supporters during this transition. Your love and prayers mean so much.

I'm thankful for just nine more classes till my degree is complete. Only nine. That's a reason to shout!

What are you thankful for this Thursday?

Blessings everyone!

Please Include this Group

2011-08-31T09:46:00.000-05:00

President Obama is soon to unveil a new jobs plan that supposedly will not raise the debt ceiling.

One of the ways Mr. Obama wants to put Americans back to work would be to offer tax incentives for companies who hire new employees. Never mind lots of companies are sitting on huge stockpiles of cash because they're still unsure about the economy; that's not what this post is about.

If a tax incentive is to be given for new hires there should be a stipulation that those new hires include the chronically unemployed. It seems the chronically unemployed are the newest group of people to be discriminated against by potential employers. There are numerous stories about the new resume sifting strategy that says people without a job need not apply.

This is a topic near and dear to my heart because I was chronically unemployed and even underemployed. It's one of the reasons I'm finishing my degree. With the economic downturn, employers could place higher demands on candidates such as having a degree for positions that didn't previously require one. (Part of the reason we're seeing the student loan crisis too.) I've even seen job ads that require a certain credit score and these positions weren't in finance. The credit score requirement is another attack against the chronically unemployed because who has decent credit after being unemployed for a year or more?

I've read a couple of articles that discuss the recession's dismantling of the middle class. An article by Michael Moore says it was strategic in nature and put forth by President Reagan. I disagree. But I do know that the middle class was hit hard by this recent downturn and any plan Mr. Obama puts forward would have to mandate reluctant hiring managers hire and even retrain the chronically unemployed.

I hope Mr. Obama's plan does what it says it will do; get Americans back to work without having to raise the debt ceiling.

Hopeful and prayerful.

I'll do it myself

2011-08-30T11:05:00.001-05:00

I can do it by myself!

If you have ever had the opportunity to spend time with a small child, you'll eventually hear the words, "I can do it myself." Whether it be tying a shoe or buttoning a shirt, they don't want your help or intervention. They are confident in their ability to do it themselves and get thoroughly upset if you try to assist in anyway.

Then there are adults who get agitated and tired of waiting who make the same proclamation. I was one of them. I was very pregnant with our oldest child and the nursery had yet to be painted. My beloved along with my father assured me that this would be done before the baby's arrival.

They both worked long hours and I grew impatient as my pregnant belly continued to grow. I got frustrated and tired of waiting...not to mention I was nesting and I uttered the words, "I'll do it myself!" So there I was fully of baby, making Nana Brown nervous and convinced that the umbilical cord was going wrap itself around her first great-grandchild's neck because I was hanging wallpaper and painting walls.

I thought about this because there are people in scripture who did the same thing. They got tired of waiting on God to fulfill His promise and tried to do it themselves. We shake our heads at them but if we tell the truth, sometimes we give in to the I'll do it myself mindset.

Sarah and Abraham
God promised these two that they would be the father and mother of many nations. And they weren't spring chickens when they received this word. As time progressed and Sarah still had not conceived, they decided to do it themselves. Sarah did what was culturally correct at the time...if she couldn't bare children then she would give her husband her handmaid to bare children on her behalf. It was a logical solution, culturally acceptable and surely what God had intended. Because again, time was ticking and how else in the world would they be father and mother of many when they didn't even have one child.

Doing what made perfect sense and was culturally acceptable turned out to be a big mess. And of course God being God didn't lie...Sarah and Abraham did have the child God promised but now there was baby mama drama.

Isaac and Rebekah
This lovely couple had twin boys and there was bad blood between them even in the womb! One son, Esau, preferred by his father Isaac and another son, Jacob, preferred by his mother. It seems at the time of their birth, God spoke and said that the elder son would serve the younger.

As Isaac prepared for death he sent out his eldest son to prepare his favorite meal. Rebekah heard this conversation and rigged an outfit for Jacob and concocted a plan to make sure that the youngest would be blessed as God had promised.

The two tricked Isaac and he pronounced the blessing over Jacob even though he was a bit hesitant. By the time Esau returns from hunting and preparing his father's favorite meal it was too late. His mother and brother had deceived both Isaac and Esau. Furious and fuming Esau plotted revenge and Jacob found himself on the run and he himself tricked by his own uncle Laban.

I wonder
I often wonder how God would have initiated His plan in their lives had they not intervened and threw proverbial monkey wrenches in the mix. There would have been no baby mama drama for Abraham and Sarah had they not intervened and I'm not sure how things would have worked out with the twins Jacob and Esau had Rebekah not worked her plan. I do know that God's Word would have certainly come to pass without them helping God out.

Your life, my life
You and I are encouraged to wait on the Lord. We are admonished to stand still and see the salvation of the Lord. But sometimes, if we're honest, we'll admit that's hard to do. We wonder how will God get done what He's promised to do. We look for ways to help or do it ourselves which usually creates more of a mess. When you're tempted to assist God with the manifestation of His word and He hasn't asked for your help...sit tight.

As much as you want the walls painted and wallpaper hung, it's in our best interest to wait.

He is well able to perform, backup, bring to pass, every word He has spoken. No word returns void and it accomplishes AND prospers in what it was sent out to do. Remember heaven and earth passes away before His word not comes to pass.

As much as you may be tempted to help...trust me...God's way leaves less clean up and drama in the long run.

Be blessed.

Don't storm out the exam room!

2011-08-29T08:39:00.000-05:00

Math has never been my strongest subject.

I had to work really hard at it and didn't fully grasp Algebra until I was an adult.

Word problems were the worst.

"Two trains leave the station at the same time..." and from there on out the problem might as well have been typed out in Swahili.

I've written a couple of blogs about experiencing a spiritual final exam if you will. How all of a sudden I was seeing and experiencing things from earlier chapters which makes perfect sense because final exams are cumulative.

Well it seems I'm making progress through my spiritual final exam and have hit what we'll call the mathematical word problem section of the test and I'm reeling. I remember failing this horribly. Last time, this part of the exam had me tell God...you and I are no longer on speaking terms. Oh yes I did. I was angry and I was pulling the silent treatment. (Thank God He's long-suffering!)

This is a real test of your faith. It's the Abraham on the mountain with a knife raised to slay Isaac kind of moment. It's a God this doesn't make a bit of sense portion of the test and asks the question...just where are you anyway? As with any teacher giving an exam, quietly sitting at their desk waiting to call time.

This portion of the exam calls into your question the depth of your faith. It wants to know do you really believe what you say you believe. Is it real or all some made up fairy tale? Are the skeptics right or is there really a God in Heaven who sits on the throne and is All Powerful, All Knowing and Ever Present? This word problem asks for the promise.

Are you willing to sacrifice His promise to you for Him? Can you say like the Three Hebrew Boys...oh King Nebuchadnezzar...our God is able to deliver us from you and the fiery furnace BUT IF NOT let it be known that our God, He is God (paraphrased). The exam is over for many at this point. It was for me all those many years ago.

And here I am again.

He wants the promise.

I hear the words to a song my father-in-law used to sing:

Is your all on the altar of sacrificed laid?
Your heart does the Spirit control?
You can only be blessed, and have peace and sweet rest
Until all on the altar is laid.

Singing group Forever Jones reminds me that He wants it ALL.

As difficult and complicated as this word problem is, I will answer correctly.

Even in the middle of my own final exam, I want to encourage you not to throw in the towel. I want to encourage you not to walk out in the middle of your own exam. You can do it. You can give Him what He wants. I know it hurts...believe me I know it hurts...but we are empowered to withstand. We are destined to win. I'm not telling you everything will be alright tomorrow. I'm not saying you may not lose your home, car or job. I am saying this...that He that began a good work in you WILL perform it. He is author and finisher.

My prayer today can be found in Hebrews 13:20-21:

Now the God of peace, that brought again from the dead our Lord Jesus, that great shepherd of the sheep, through the blood of the everlasting covenant, Make you perfect in every good work to do his will, working in you that which is well-pleasing in his sight, through Jesus Christ; to whom be glory for ever and ever. Amen.

Faithful to Remind Us

2011-08-27T08:48:00.001-05:00

Me and Leticia!

There are people from my past who I am very happy to have in my present! Leticia and I went to junior high school and she was in town last night hosting a one-night ministry service. Wonderful! We met her husband Don; what a very nice gentleman!

Leticia is an incredible minister of the gospel! Holy Spirit used her last night to simply remind us of God's word and His promises. Grandma Jenkins (the founder of our junior high) would have been so proud!

Here are more pictures and videos from last night's service.

Have a great weekend everybody!


The Facebook Four - Pastor Valencia, ME, Prophetess Leticia and Min. Kim!

Leticia teaching.

Go hard or go home

2011-08-26T06:47:00.001-05:00

I heard that statement for the first time a few years ago when our son was playing little league football.

It resonated.

Either go all out or go home.

It's not worth the time and energy to go out and do something half-hearted.

Go hard or go home.

This morning I pondered how I had put the brakes on so many things in my life. Fearful of what others would think, fearful of how it would ruffle the feathers of the status quo, sometimes even fearful of success.

But that was then and this is now.

God has entrusted me with much and it's up to me to go hard or go home. I can stand on that great day with the talents He gave me or say here's the two you gave me plus two more. That ladies and gentlemen requires going all out. That requires complete obedience. That requires doing things differently; don't be afraid to do it how Holy Spirit downloaded it to you.

It's a call to be true to your self and trust the guiding voice of Holy Spirit who leads and guides us into all truth.

The beautiful thing is that with all of us working, with all of us being obedient, with all of us serving with reckless abandon; we allow His light to shine through us and draw others.

I must work the works of Him who sent me because night comes when no man can work. (John 9:4)

Whatever your assignment at whatever stage in life, do it it with complete abandon.

Ladies and gentlemen we either need to go hard or go home.

I have them and so do you

2011-08-25T06:47:00.005-05:00

Choices. Life is about choices.

Some choices are pretty easy to make. Other choices have serious outcomes and are more difficult to make.

We even get to choose how we respond to irritants and stress.

You see, I could choose to blow the 20 pounds I worked so hard to lose by self-medicating and finding temporary solace in all my favorite foods (most include chocolate).

I could find a number of reasons not to exercise or I could throw in one of the many exercise DVDs and move!

I could choose to ignore facts and hope tough issues fade away or I can deal with them head-on and impact them before they impact me.

We all have choices.

I choose to believe God.

I choose to believe in me. I believe I can not only maintain my weight loss but continue the journey.

I choose to believe that there are more for me than against me.

I choose to believe that no weapon formed against me ever prospers.

I choose to believe God's promises and His word.

I choose moderation over excess where food is concerned.

I choose peace over confusion.

I choose garment of praise over spirit of heaviness.

I choose to free my mind and allow the rest to follow.

I choose obedience over disobedience.

I choose prayer over complaining and murmuring.

I am determined to follow through with them all.

What choices will you make today?

Cost savings

2011-08-24T08:10:00.000-05:00

In 2005, there was Hurricane Ike and right on its heels was Hurricane Rita. It was our first hurricane and after watching all of Hurricane Ike's devastation we took no chances with Rita. We boarded up our home and headed to San Antonio. Turns out the trip wasn't warranted but we did discover something that would eventually save us money.

When we returned from San Antonio we were amazed at how cool the house was with the windows boarded up. Our air conditioner wasn't working so hard. Even though we had the benefit of mature trees providing shade, covering the windows made a huge difference.

In our new home, we don't have the benefit of mature trees. So my beloved and I decided to cover our windows before summer got underway. We bought room darkening, sun blocking, window treatments and those things work! We had no idea that this would be one of the hottest summers on record; to date we've had 25 consecutive days of triple digit temperatures.

We also made some changes to our energy consumption like:

Not running the clothes dryer at night - heats up the house and A/C has to work harder
Running the dishwasher by 6 p.m. - Dishes get hand-washed otherwise
We raised the thermostat by a degree or two - it took some getting used to but I can sleep in a slightly warmer house. Thank the Lord for ceiling fans and pedestal fans.

I just got the electric bill today and all of our efforts have paid off. Our bill was less this month even with all the triple digit temperature days than the bill last year this time. We used considerably less energy and that means more money in our pocket. Money we could use for oh..say...a special wife and mother's birthday present this Saturday.

So if you're home is budget conscious like mine, my recommendation is room darkening curtains! They're inexpensive at places like Wal-mart and Target and worth the small investment. And there's still time to save on your electric bill seeing how Houston summers last until October.

Stay cool everybody!

Lots and lots of erasing!

2011-08-23T03:00:00.000-05:00

Yesterday, I woke up and experienced amazing peace. Holy Spirit was playing this beautiful song within me for most of the day and I was content. I was so appreciative of this in light of all the recent changes in my life! I'm walking in victory in one area and then out of no where...bam! My peace was side-swiped by the enemy! I'm talking an outright brazen attack. I promise the enemy KNOWS, I mean he KNOWS what buttons to push and he was laying on mine hard!

I'm not kidding.

I would have lost the victory had I not stopped and said wait a minute.

I've seen this before.

This is not new.

This is the same old TIRED warfare.

And that's when I said oh no you don't.

Not this time.

This pushing of the buttons will not send me into an eating binge (all of a sudden I wanted all things chocolate).

This pushing of the buttons will not instigate an oh wow is me attitude.

This pushing of the buttons will not have me doubting myself.

So the first thing I did was silence the lies of the enemy and regain control. Then repent for my short and temporary lapse!

I did my Zumba workout and went into prayer.

I spoke to the thing at work trying to rob me; trying to make me flunk my final.

I'm thinking...are you serious?

This will not work. I am not flunking!

This foolishness might have worked a few months ago.

But not this time.

He almost had me for a second or two...but I refused to go down that road again.

Not this kid.

I like walking in victory thank you very much.

So the great thing about being a Child of the Most High is that you can speak His Word and things have to line up. So I reset my atmosphere and laid down some facts.

I'm telling you, I've failed this part of the exam many times...but not yesterday.

Let's just say I recalled the right answer halfway through my wrong answer. There were lots of erasure marks on my paper but at the end of the day, I got it right! LOL!

And that's all that matter.

I get credit for my right answer even with all the erasure marks!

Have a great day everyone!

Firsts

2011-08-22T08:34:00.001-05:00

First day of school
This year he wasn't nearly as nervous.

He's a 7th grader now so he knows the ropes. Knows his way around the school. We went yesterday and stocked his locker with all his supplies.

His biggest concerns are teachers and juggling everything!

He wore his favorite t-shirt that says, "2 Play or Not 2 Play...there is no question."

First Monday Morning After
ZTCC ran her course and today is the first Monday after not having to serve the Sunday before. (If this is new news...you can read about our transition here.)

I woke up this morning singing...It is well with my soul...and I promise it is. Looking forward to what comes next! In the meantime, I look after mom who is doing quite well.

First time in a long time
Later this week I'll see my good friend Leticia from junior high school. This will be the first time we've seen each other since then! She's ministering Friday night and what an incredible prophetic ministry Holy Spirit has entrusted to her!

So while some firsts are bitter-sweet, others are exciting and anticipated!

Such is life.

Have an awesome week everyone.